http://www.aionsource.com/ (the Curse affiliated one) is indeed the best site, at least in my opinion. Here's some other blog type places that have good info also:
http://aioninsider.com/ (no relation to WowInsider)
I'm only 9th level, and am on the west coast server that begins with a K. The chat is godawful, but there's no queues on the server so far.
That's probably Kasiniel. The best thing to do is just leave the general chat, which you can do by right clicking the tab, going to tab options, and unclicking Channel 1.
I'm playing on Lumiel, which is an East Coast server but is also the unofficial RP server, so the general chat is actually pretty decent.
Very true. One thing that NCW did do well is they did their best to spread people out when they were originally making characters during pre-selection. They locked the servers and factions that had too high of a population (with factions, it was if one side was greater than 10%) which encouraged people to roll on other servers and/or factions. This has caused it so that there are server pop differences of only 1-2%, which is a good omen for a game that is, at it's end game, PvP oriented.
I'm playing an Asmo Chanter on Lumiel. I'm actually surprised that Asmodians are the most popular race in this MMO, most people usually want to be the "good" guys.
As for the Eurogamer review, I agree with most of it. Aion's PvE isn't all that terribly compelling, but I'm not playing it for the PvE. I also laugh at the complaints about monotonous skills, as in Wow I spent a majority of my time hitting 2-3 keys in raiding. A lot of Aion's complaints can be easily applied to Wow at this point in the game, but Blizzard is still a bit more skillful at hiding the grind, because they are the masters of PvE.
Again, I will tell people that if you like DAoC, you will likely like Aion.