I do not believe force feeding is currently implemented. Violated is a pretty broad term, so I don’t know what he meant. You can’t, like, do anything creepy or sexual to other players if you think that’s what he was implying. I think people just might have said weird things to him that made him uncomfortable.
You can build a hut and attempt to sleep in it when you log out, but the starting building material (thatch) is very easy to destroy. Literally every thatch house I come across has been broken into and the owner killed. The second level houses (wood) cannot be destroyed by starting weapons and tools - you must have metal items, which are much more difficult to harvest and create. Having said that, though, at this point there are probably many people with metal items and it is also a risk.
The island is very big, though, so it is possible that you can hide from other players. I have actually had a lot of success on PvP servers by finding a random, out of the way place and just logging off in some nook or crannie. There are PvE servers though, so if you are not interested in fighting other players at all you can play on one of those (which is what I’m currently doing).
Taming dinos takes a while and you need to be a certain level before you can ride certain ones. Riding the scorpions is about halfway into the level tree. Also they are jerks, they poison you which knocks you unconscious then slowly eat you. It’s always best to take them on with a pal or six.
And yeah, the character creation tools are really weird. You can make some freaky looking “people” if you push certain sliders in certain directions.