I have felt that the wife has been distant for a while. So I had a drink and asked her about it. Fearing the worst. I had no fucking idea.
She finally admitted that she has been unhappy with our relationship for some time. She was planning to discuss me getting my own apartment.
I was shocked. I was hurt. I was afraid. I was angry.
I had another drink. A strong one. I was stupid.
We got into a fight. I started to tell her, in great detail, how if she went on with this I would kill myself.
Let me make this clear right now. I had no intention of actually killing myself. Let me make this clear.
I had zero intention of self harm.
What I did have was shock, fear, anger, hurt and fear. Fear. That almost 30 years of a relationship going down the toilet. That I love her so much and she would dispose of me like a used tissue.
I wanted to hurt her the same way that I perceived that she was hurting me.
Well shortly there was a knock at the door. She got it and in walk two cops. They handcuff me and they me that I was being brought to a hospital for a 72 hour stay under the Baker Act.
Danger of self harm. Handcuffed and in a patrol car.
I can’t continue this right now. But I will. I need to get it all out.
For those that might be curious, this is not a joke.
Edit: If you @ me now I will not reply. I need some time.
I have concern and I hope you are OK. I’ve not been on this board for all that long, but I’m glad that we all have a good support network with each other.
Damn dude, I feel safe in speaking for all here saying you’re a highly valued member of the forum and while we haven’t actually met in person I have a high regard for you. I hope you have some time to sort things out for yourself and with your wife, and if you need to talk things out I’d make myself available, if it would help.
Rich I’m very sorry this is happening. Hopefully this can lead you some communication with your wife and you two can work this out together. We’re all pulling for you.
Man dude, I’m sorry and scared for you. Know that you’re valued and we enjoy you here. It will be hard, but I hope you can push aside the anger, it’s a shitty emotion that can’t help you. Focus on the positives. You’re alive. You’re aware. You have friends.
We’re pulling for you, just talk to us when you’re ready.
Rich, I’m sorry to hear that. It must be devastating to hear that from someone you’ve been in such a long relationship with. I feel for you. Take some time, but as others have said, you’re a valued member here and when you feel like coming back, we’ll be here.
I’m so very, very sorry to hear that you’re going through this, Rich. And I want you to know that many of us, including me, are here with a non-judgmental, supportive mindset and a readiness to be there for you as best as we can. Whenever you’re ready. Just let us know what you need, in thread, or in private message if that’s easier for you.
Very sorry to hear that. It must be terrible having the world pulled from under your feet like that, regardless of why. Take care of yourself for yourself as you said. Remember that things will look up eventually.