It seems that there are a fair number of us living in a country away from our birth, so I thought it would be nice to start a thread about it.
I moved to the US for my Sophomore/Junior year of college, having lived most of my life in the Netherlands. My father was American and my mother was Dutch. Most of my home and school life was in English and my friends were mostly American or Canadian, although I had a few local Dutch friends.
Despite this, I really felt like a fish out of water my first few years. I couldn’t drive, I didn’t understand frat parties and I always seemed a bit behind.
Also, the lack of universal health and guns scared the shit out of me.
Those fears still exist, but over a decade later, I feel better though a bit trapped. My wife is American, and I have two wonder girls. My Dutch (everyone wants to speak English, so it is a tough language to learn, even when living there) has always been subpar, and with ADHD, I never felt confident about moving back to the Netherlands and making a go of it.
My wife does not want to leave her extended family and she feels like she would be isolated in the Netherlands, although I feel she could learn the language faster than I could relearn it and I understand that
Also, I love a lot of things about my country, like English Libraries, cool gadgets, having a car and most everything coming out of the US first. Also, stores open on Holidays is nice and having lower taxes is a perk despite the fact that I would gladly pay higher taxes if it meant better healthcare and schools.
That being said, I would kill for a good bakery that wasn’t super expansive. I would love half way decent dairy products isn’t ice cream and I miss Frituurs!