I am only about 2 hours in, playing with a buddy, but I kind of feel the same way.
It is the fun and popular thing to do to trash on this game, so people are just dunking openly on it right now. The game definitely has some egregious flaws that should have been fixed prior to release, but the core Fallout world in this game is fairly exciting. And I think if you are a fan of the Bethesda fallout games, there is plenty to like here.
Also in playing this game I realized how little I actually cared about conversations with NPC’s in Fallout 3 and 4, the most interesting stories I found were happening upon a cabin with 2 corpses in an embrace, cyanide on the table, with a sad story in text. That environmental storytelling is here.
Early on, there was a holotape of a man trapped in a fridge, screaming to get out, giving up the location of his secret stash in a stump. I got out the pen and paper and wrote down his directions, and sure enough… I found some loot. That was pretty cool. My buddy who is like level 35 had missed that when he went through the area.
I really hope they continue to support the game.
I also don’t think Bethesda deserves a free pass for how terribly this game was rolled out, and the bugs and server issues, but underneath the jank, I am finding something to enjoy, at the very least.