Um… let’s see if I can explain it. It’s a joke. You said that your son had that hairstyle, once. Then the ellipsis. It’s like you were saying that he had that hairstyle once but only once because you did something to make sure that it would never happen again.
The point of the joke is that the guy in the movie perhaps beat up his mother or father or even killed them for messing with him.
And so, the point of the now humorless joke is that he only had that hairstyle once, before you made it so that he would [I]never have it again.
Honey, don’t be so tense, but we are not finished here.
What you did here is classical victim-blaming. We don’t know all the details, but based on details presented in the article it is easy to reach certain conclusions. What you attempted to do is to introduce new “what if” information that would alter situation to conform to your world view. You did this so you don’t have to internalize an event that conflicts with your existing worldview.
It is painfully apparent that you are extremely uncomfortable with the notion that woman can be an aggressor. This is very sexist of you.
No, not really. It’s classical (and entirely reasonable) doubting that the media has presented the facts in sufficient depth to make judgement. If the media can make a story more sensational with a narrow view, and it makes their job easier because a superficial story is easier to slap together, then that’s just a double win from their perspective.
There was no “he had it coming” angle, just a doubt that we know the full history of these folks issues. The media presented the narrative that “she beat him up for bad sex LOL!” and the real narrative is more likely “she beat him up because they have a history of problems including X, Y, Z” Maybe X is that she’s abusive and he’s caught in an abusive relationship, but the statistics are against that one.
I think below is very clear case of “he had it coming” angle:
Doubting media is a reasonable response to such sensationalist case, but that not what WarrenM did here. Notice how he ever only doubts motives, not the beating or perpetrator. It is very clear case that it boils down to looking for a justification to beating. He attempts to justify it and nothing else, and as such this is nothing but a victim blaming.
I think you need to turn down your MRA sensitivity from 11 down to a more reasonable level. Doubting the motives, but not the facts of the case, isn’t victim blaming. It’s reasonable media doubting.