My opinion (1/2):
Theres nothing wrong with videogames.
Videogames are a form of art (or craft, if you have such opinion).
They are part a computer simulation, part a boardgame where the rules and the board is inside the computer.
“Is just a game” is a perfect defense of videogames, …videogames are only games.
When you are playing a videogame, you are not hurting real entities, occupying real states, … or anything with lasting effects in the real world, really. Is all inside the computer, the simulation, and the game rules. And when the game ends, its ready for the next game that can start from a clean slate.
If anything, games entertain us, challenge us and perhaps help us maintain our brain. Like a muscle, our brain want exercise, and videogames can provide it.
In this sense, playing videogames is not worse than lifting weights… with your brain.
Videogames can be, or can contain, power fantasies. You can be pilot of a experimental ship that will save the day, and become the hero. Or you can be a thief, and steal a lot of gold and become rich. Maybe you can drive a powerful car. Or have a beautiful women sidekick with enormous tits.
The thing with fantasies (power fantasies or not) is that are not real. No gold is stolen, no army is destroyed by a experimental ship, and no women has been objectified.
Talking about enormeous tits. Womens have fantasies too. Movies like “Sex in New York” of “50 Shades of Gray” are made possible, because womens have put the money, the million of dollars required to make these productions. Banning male fantasies would only be fair if women fantasies are banned too, but that would be a stupid “a eye for a eye” world where everyone is blind. I am not psychologist, but I bet fantasies exist because we need them.