Let’s try this again and perhaps I can be more clear (moved from the edit of my original post).
I didn’t want to get into the Wire because I haven’t seen it, but perhaps this will make my point clearer. You are misunderstanding the quote from the Wire. To paraphrase, he’s saying deserved has nothing to do with it. We can profess justice, but justice isn’t reality, which is pretty much the opposite of what you said by saying you thought they got what they deserved. Unless you are defining deserved circularly as a means of undermining the notion of justice or morality, saying they “deserved” it is beyond harsh, it’s inaccurate. If you are defining deserved circularly as broader point, then that wasn’t clear to me from your original post.
Let’s take the guy that tried to poison Dany for example. He got dragged from a horse until he died. It’s grim, gruesome, cruel and unusual by modern standards, but within the context of Dothraki society, his crimes met their deserved punishment. He may not even have known what to expect if he got caught, except death and a rather painful one. Contrast that with Sansa, Rob, Cat, or Ned. Any of them might have expected death or even in Sansa case eventually cruelty, but the actual particulars of the negative consequences were extreme even by the standards their society espouses.
Last I checked, Sansa didn’t ask Joffery to have her beaten. It’s not just semantics* and how we judge characters in a story (even if fantasy), is reflective of our own personal outlooks. Yes, that’s the case. It being a fantasy book doesn’t change that. That you think that what happened to them, somehow is a fitting punishment for their pride, is pretty astonishing.
*And I tried to agree with you, btw, by couching it in terms of responsibility and what happened to them was in part a consequence of their actions. When you continue to assert deserved has a proper meaning in your original post, that’s when it’s reasonable to assume that on some level you actually find their punishments fitting given the context, which like I said is pretty astonishing.
Edit: And there I went again… I don’t know why I drag myself into these kind of arguments. I’ll drop it and go back to my hole.