Cubit - I sort of fall in the same position. I really like the idea and the slow-time strategy and planning, and seeing it work (or not!), but rarely do I find a game that grips me enough to really enjoy it. Not that I try that many wargames, mostly because I know what I don't like.
I don't like:
- Hexes (we're not playing with cardboard any more people)
- Turns (as point above)
- Any mention of combat tables and whatnot (as above)
- Chits (tho I forgive CotA for that as it makes sense on an 'operational' scale)
I think we're finally entering an age when we're seeing less of the above, and more wargames trying to develop to the strength of the PC, thank god.
I'd rather play a board game like Memoir '44 than a computerised version of a board game.
So what does that leave you with? Well I highly recommend Combat Mission, which you can try a free multiplayer demo of over from http://www.battlefront.com . One point tho, I've really started to dislike Battlefront (the developers). It's a point of pride for them to have a god-awful website and to be arrogant cocks about it (and other things). FFS people, you're operating in a niche! At least you could try and encourage people to look around and not figure they've landed in some fanbois abomination from 10 year ago!
Mutliplayer CM is extremely rewarding, challenging and infinitely varied. I must have had 3 or 4 games going at any one time for about a 9 month period. I love the competitive nature of a good wargame.
Other than that, I'm enjoying CotA, but it is pretty hard core (not because it's hard, but you need to put your head into that of a competent military planner or it will all go very wrong!)
You could also check out the Close Combat series, which is extremely fun and pretty simple. I've had some memorable gaming moments in that. Eg, played as Germans in the very first mission of CC 1 and destroyed the attacking Americans. MGs in layers hiding up until the Yanks crossed into the open, then BAM, ambush. Then as they would move, another one opens up from hiding BAM! Anyway, you get the idea.
And yeah, the Sid Meiers stuff is fun too.
(oh, interesting RPS entry. Lots of unique games in there. There's actually a board game of bombing Germany now, similar feelings are evoked by the look of it!)