Let me start by saying I almost feel bad responding to this because I’m “playing into your game” and you’ve been pretty rude to other people here. I wish you weren’t and it makes me feel like I’m continuing your narrative about finding some magical needs for this feature when
a) people can want it without having some grand vision or desperate need for it that transcends simple preference
b) there are plenty of people here who have already described why they want it and you are dismissing them because you’ve decided their opinion isn’t relevant for whatever reason
So I don’t want to respond because I feel like you might throw me under the bus too. Although I’ve noticed you try to “give as good as you get” and don’t tend to start conversations at an 11 on the dick-o-meter, but you do tend to escalate there quickly.
I’m honestly just saying the above (and the below) to be proactive about helping this community and give you feedback about your behavior, since I know you actually do care about feedback regardless of your bluster above. If my tone below seems defensive it’s because I’ve been put on the defensive based on reading your posts upthread.
I apologize to everyone (wumpus included) for that rant.
Now, it’s actually really simple why I use ignore for people in P&R. We have a diverse set of users here, and the idea of splintering Discourse instances to cover really coherent, narrow-focused communities doesn’t apply to this forum. You’ve been repeating the idea that this is a gaming forum (you keep saying “primarily” along with your statement but the rest of your words belie that point) but it isn’t. I’ve noticed most users participate in a subset of sub-forums. For instance, to argue against your point about gaming-primary, we have @ChristienMurawski who is a very desirable and prolific member of this forum who (forum-wide) famously does not care much at all about games. You can minimize this as a single user or excuse it all you want, but he’s here and there are others like him here. So we shouldn’t say to people “this forum is gamers only, get the hell out,” unless we want to minimize the broader-scope community efforts we have here and discourage those users from joining, which would be a net negative for the forum.
So all that being said, there are some users who I am very interested in their opinions in the subforums for Games, Movies, and TV, but who show up in P&R and post shit I don’t want to see. Sometimes, it is people just plain shitposting, which moderation could solve. But I wouldn’t want to dismiss the opinions of some of the posters who I’ve blocked via ignore-lite, because it’s really me.
I apologize to all for getting political outside of P&R now, I don’t really see how I could explain this without going there. Skip if you want.
personal details P and R rant
After the 2016 election, I was super depressed and super pissed. I was in a bad way, and I’d been in P and R up to that point and was trying to be a good understanding citizen of politics etc, but just couldn’t do it anymore. So I posted along with others mourning their own views of what the country was pre-shitgibbon, and I was only getting worse and worse. So I decided to de-P&R myself for a while, and I muted the shit out of a ton of threads. But 6 months later it was weird for me to not know what was going on in politics since I’d been carefully following the news for years. Avoiding it daily was super hard because Trump is like a news story with a built in megaphone; everyone talks about what he says and does all of the time and he’s more exaggerated in the actual implementation then most anyone reasonable predicted in their doom and gloom forecasting of his presidency. Overall, it’s not a great time to stop following politics if you are into politics. It’s not quiet or easy going. Our P&R forum is an excellent resource to keep yourself up to date with what’s going on, and I missed reading it. I also let a lot of shit go. Of course, part of doing that for me was de-friending myself in real life and on social media from everyone who I knew voted for Trump.
So, back in P and R here at the forum, and most of the time I’m happy with people. As I mentioned above some people drop in and shitpost. I wish they would get banned. Honestly, I wish they were just removed from the forum altogether. This is, for me, an incredibly short list. Of the people on it who haven’t already been banned by Tom by their own fuckups, it has 2 people on it who I will not name. But this is not the entirety of my ignore list. In fact, when I said 5 people upthread, I was wrong. It’s actually about 40, but some of those are gone or don’t post (much) anymore. Because for a short time before I de-P and R’ed circa 2016/early 2017, anyone saying anything positive about Trump went on my ignore list. Because there was really nothing in my mind that was a bigger deal breaker than that which I actually dealt with. If I’d run across a self-declared racist or nazi in that time clearly it would have been worse, but as is, that’s my boogieman.
Then moreso, but even now, I don’t want to see anyone defending Trump. You mention upthread about bait. You can’t ignore it because it’s bait. Defending Trump is that for me. I DO ignore it, because it’s better for everyone if I don’t start cursing immediately at everyone who comes along to defend shitgibbon, but it’s emotionally very difficult for me to do so. I want so bad to yell at these people. Kids in fucking cages, man. I can’t help it. 2 uncle/aunt pairs, 2 friends I used to game regularly with, and an old high school friend who votes purely on abortion as an issue and I can’t speak to them anymore because of this. Someone on a forum? Yeah, I’m not going to fret over blocking them, but when I can’t it’s like when you’re at the family dinner table and you’re talking yourself out of punching your grandma (luckily my grandma is not an actual bad person, that part’s a joke).
In real life, you get to leave the room or close your door at the office or whatever when some person you vehemently disagree with is bloviating in the hall/at the next table over at the restaurant. But in the forum you either block them or you stop going to the forum. Kick them out for it in a forum made for just one political side/party? Absolutely. Kick them out when a) many people want to have their opinions challenged and b) they are a good resource/forum member over in Games/TV/Movies/EE? No, you don’t boot them then. But that leaves them there in P&R (and also the gamergate/games journalism threads that go P&R), where you don’t want to listen to them.
I apologize, again, this time for this second rant. :)