Right. I wasn’t comparing the content, but rather the fact that it’s the standard social currency with today’s teens. So if you’re not part of it, then you’re “that kid whose parents don’t even let him use Instagram.” And “OMG, did you see that Kanye meme?” is today’s “Did you see the episode of the Brady Bunch where Marsha got hit in the face with the football?” You miss the common dialogue, and you’re also not part of the mainstream group. Not that teenagers care at all about that stuff. :)
As far as concern about weirdo stalkers, or even online harassers from RL, he can make his IG account private so that only his friends can see the content, and he can choose who to accept as friends.
Frankly, it comes down to communicating with your kid, knowing your kid, and trusting your kid. In my own case, I think the worst thing I ever did content-wise for my kid wasn’t social-media-related, but rather cancelling my Rhapsody/Pandora (which have “radio version” filters) and caving to his request to join Spotify (which has the “dirty versions” of songs, but which every teenager uses, as sharing playlists there is today’s making a cassette for a friend). He loves hip hop, and the stuff he listens to makes me feel like the old man on the lawn. Because while our parents/grandparents got upset about songs with innuendo, a lot of modern hip hop music is flat out misogynistic, gynecological, and spells everything out directly.* It’s almost funny to listen to it’s so direct and over the top – would be funny if my kid didn’t know the words by heart.
But while he listens to a lot of music that, to me, ranges in content from sophomoric to appalling, his treatment of his friends and how he acts around people is in no way affected by it. Despite how women are often portrayed in that music (that Shawty is portrayed as a full-on ho, let me tell you), he’s respectful of his girl friends and protective of them in groups. He avoids the parties where kids are drinking/huffing/etc. even with all the music about sipplin’ slizzard or whatever that is. :) Just as Rocky Horror didn’t drive me and my friends to cannibalism, orgies, and (not that there’s anything wrong with that) transvestitism, his music is just entertainment to him, and exposure isn’t harming him.
But for some kids, hearing that music all the time would normalize the behaviors for them, and it might be to their benefit to limit their exposure to it.
Some kids are going to get on Instagram and just goof with their friends. A few kids will probably poke around and find things like cam model accounts and other inappropriate content – again, it’s knowing where your kid’s curiosities and limits lie.
I do agree with Mark about the phone at bedtime, though. My kid’s 16 now and dealing with my divorce, so I’m not going to drop new restrictions on him, but if there was one thing I’d change it would be the phone at bed, because what used to be reading Kindle books before sleep is now chatting with friends before bedtime.
- Not dissing all hip hop by any means. My kid’s made me a Logic fanboy.