I can ad some clarity around my views.
I worked as a retail manager for 16 years and 4 years previous to that in retail, so from 15-35. To start with I was told the more the better, will help your career will show how good you are, show willing and you will shine. This was true by the time I was 20 I was manager of my own shop turning over £500k a year. Then they need more, if you want to run a bigger store, earn more money they need more, eventually I was working 80/90 hours a week for 39 hours wage, starting at 5am working till 10pm, working Saturdays, Sundays. Also covering other peoples stores, cancelling holidays, going on additional courses to stay in the lead and on top.
Salary was pretty good but I had no life. I was knackered when at home and at work. I was damn good at what I did but so were a lot of the others and they were doing the same, my best mate still works for the company as a regional manager and he looks like shite and his life outside work is shite.
Who benefitted from this, well my company but was my benefit worth the loss of time, in no way was it ever. It is something I regret till this day.
My best friend and brother in law and I met sisters and married them. Pete was a scientist, he worked on cures for cancers at Cambridge University. He had 3 daughters aged 3, 5 and 7 (I am a god parent to he eldest and youngest)and was 34 when he died of bowel cancer. His work was his life and the week before he died I sat on his bed and told him I was quitting my job for the reasons above and he said that is the best thing you can do, find something you like but don’t let it take over your life like I did mine.
My dad was a Royal Marine and spent most of my childhood years somewhere else, while we get on we aren’t that close, we aren’t a close family and my dad is withdrawn at times, it was all work for him.
Another work colleague is 45 and spent most of his working life working, he has 3 kids, 24 and twins who are now 18, he has no relationship with them at all because he was never there for them, he was always working or when not at work doing work related stuff.
When I quit and Pete died, my wife and I had just had our son who was 2 weeks old. I swore I would be there for them rather than doing extra for a faceless company too make them more money. I got a job as an Account / Production Manager for a Document Management Company, I worked 7.30am - 15.30pm Mon - Fri. I earnt 20% more than I did in retail and my company had the same attitude to employment as I had, Family and downtime was important, very important.
I have interviewed 1000’s of people and employed 100’s and making the right choice is never easy but I no longer just look at who says they do the most or the longest, I look at the whole package they are going to bring not just an i do so much extra work.
At present I am unemployed having lost my job 8 weeks ago due to the company I supplied changing from local suppliers to global ones an unfortunate situation but no reflection on my staff or I. I am discussion with a new company who are looking to create a new role for me and so far it is looking great and both interviews have included talks about work, time, extra work, downtime, hobbies and the importance of family and life outside of work.
So when I read comments like this, Speaking of non-profits, I also value candidates who volunteer at non-profits because people who juggle a job, family & still find time to volunteer are people who are very well organized. it is just such a load of bollock. There is only so many hours in the week, they never change, every hour you spend doing something else you take away from someone else. Friends, Family, loved ones are so important and there is no way to be more organised to spend some no profit time doing something (my father in law volunteers at a soup kitchen weekly, but hey his kids are grown up and he has some time to do it) without removing it from something else. Too often today we read about family not mattering, parents letting kids sit in front of ipads or the tv and not spending the time with them, or working longer hours to earn more money to buy them bigger ipads and more expensive phones.
So forgive me if I don’t get a little peeved at times.