Honestly I understand the same thing. I spent a lot of time being absolutely exhausted in civil rights/social justice discussions before I ever understood privilege, for instance. It’s tiring. It’s a ton of work. And the people on the other side, they don’t want to explain it for the twentieth time, either. And some people over there aren’t even really fair at all, they’ve been biased the other way. This happens for both of these groups (race discussions and sexuality discussions). But I think this part:
