Now it’s time for me to
You need to fix this shit.
I’m not sure whether to be insulted or not. Truthfully. I’ve been around here a long time, and I would hope, after over a decade being here, I’d not be known as a guy to try to offend anyone.
But hey, you make all the assumptions you want. I’m noping out. I don’t like feeling angry, and it’s irrational to feel as such after a forum conversation.
Some folks might not find in-jokes so welcoming. And if you don’t even bother to explain it in the welcome message, it’s not really going to work as a joke for a first time member, is it? The only people that will get the joke are the people who are already members. It’s just a poor strategy for a greeting in a welcome thread.
Also, I don’t think super gay is negative myself, but it doesn’t seem like a good way to welcome people for this site (as super gay as qt3 is).
I’m not saying anything about your history, personality, etc. I’m just saying that welcome post was sketchy and shouldn’t be repeated.
Are there any lessons that Scrubs cant teach us?
Also, now I have the stupid jingle stuck in my mind!
…With images of animal flirtation?!? Slippery slope!
Wait, where’s the other hand? That’s one hell of a welcome.
I usually welcome people to the Grognard thread with this orientation video:
Awww! Melted my Grognard heart!
No.
What even in hell?
He didn’t get the goofy sillness of the post, and Craig explained it and he laughed it off.
Seems to have been just fine.
I actually kind of agree with Rich. In jokes are, by their nature, exclusionary. In fact, I think they’re rude in front of another person who might be experiencing uncertainty about his or her situation with you. When you meet someone new, especially if you’re welcoming that person into your home or a new community, you shouldn’t be using the argot that he doesn’t speak.
Naturally, I’m not saying don’t make in jokes. And what played out upthread was just fine, and everyone was gracious about it. But I’m with Rich and Tim in that I think a lot of people don’t realize how socially awkward in-jokes can be for the folks who aren’t “in”, especially in person. Put yourself in that person’s shoes. For all he knows, you’re having a laugh at his expense. At the very least, you’re making him unsure how to react. Does he laugh politely, or does he risk your scorn by telling you he doesn’t understand?
-Tom, who once had dinner with THE Miss Manners. No joke.
Hey, I wonder why this thread has so much activ… Oh.
Thanks for chiming in Tom. That’s how I feel about this too. It’s very hard to know how to react and what people are telling you when you don’t know where they are coming from with an in joke. It’s fine across the forum, but it’s a bit questionable when welcoming new members.
Yeah, you see dozens of new posts and think “wow, we’ve got all kinds of new friends!” Or…not.
Perhaps @admin could cut all this meta discussion about how we welcome new members to a seperate thread so this thread stays on topic?
Just to clarify. I didn’t mind at all about @BrianRubin post. I was confused, yes but it was my fault that I didn’t understand the meme.
I…wasn’t even referecing an in-joke. I just thought the gif was funny. Yeeesh.
That’s why we’re sending you to the reeducation camps, Brian.