Yeah it’s very complicated. I guess when it comes down to it’s “try not to be a dick” is a good rule, right? The only thing is sometimes people tell you if something bothers them, sometimes you don’t know you’re doing a thing that’s wrong until someone else tells you it’s wrong. No big deal, right?
It’s a little different when you ‘make fun of yourself’. I think the important thing is who you make fun of. For example, I am Hispanic-Chinese, I joke about ‘Spanish time’. The other party has to decide if I’m making a joke saying I’m one of ‘us’, then it’s kinda ok. If I’m making the joke saying it’s one of THEM, and that WE are better than those people, then it’s not so nice.
As for the ‘good at math’ thing I don’t like it now because I realize the problems with ‘model minority.’ It’s like being brought up to the front of the class and being told you’re a teacher’s pet, you’re sooooo much better than those uppity blacks and lazy browns. Why don’t they learn how to behave well? I’m not saying this is the intent of everyone who brings it up, but it certainly is part of the effect.
edit: also to be in thread, I skipped E2 just to watch E3 and still not convinced. Laying an egg, ugh I can’t roll my eyes enough.