That’s the way we are too–full part of the family, and they get pampered their entire lives. But we’ve had as many as 5 in the household, down to 3 now, and none of them will have anything to do with the others. Yet they manage to co-exist. There is an occasional yowling when one decides to swat at another, but it has never devolved into actual warfare, just cats being cats. We had always hoped they would learn to play together, or at least cuddle up for shared heat, but nope, three individual cats. They sometimes argue over who gets to sit in what lap.

I think the surest way to have cats that get along is to get littermates. Both sets of littermates I have had got along well. My two MC are BFF, to the point where if one is contentedly sitting next to me on the bed or couch and his brother walks into the room, they jump off and say hello, groom or play with each other and ignore me. Of course, this doesn’t help when one of the littermates dies and you wonder about getting a companion. A new kitten was tolerated by the 10-year-old cat, but never friends. The last survivor of the 5 cat household really didn’t like any other cats, so there was no question of bringing an additional cat in her senior years. Nesrie is right there is a good chance Shadow wouldn’t be happy with another cat in the household.

But watching my MC reaction (curiosity not hostility) to stray cats, I’m not going hesitate to get another cat if one of my boys die earlier. I’m not at all surprised that Simon and Athena welcome Gus to the household. Even more, than their huge size and beautiful coats, what makes Maine Coon unusual is their tolerance of other cats, dogs, and infants, which is very dog-like.

I think I might’ve shared this story earlier, cant’ remember.

Shadow was a happenstance pet. My kitty was getting older, and I was thinking about having a few years with no pets at all, just one less thing to worry about for awhile and maybe make travel easier. My co-worker found cardboard box full of kittens at our mall, left out in the rain. They were so young the shelters wouldn’t take him so she got goats milk and bottle fed them and then for weeks stalked anyone in the office she knew had cats to take them. I said no, over and over and over again. I also told her my senior cat would never forgive me if I did.

She got all of them but two adopted, a third she was worried about because the owner was kind of odd and might return her.

Then she told me a weird story about Shadow, which I know is true because she has repeated it, verbatim, to multiple people over the years. Apparently he crawled into a recliner they had and their son used the recliner, reclined in it. The cat fell out, lay on the floor and didn’t make a sound. They thought he was dead, that his spine was broken. Then they found out he was breathing and they were about to use a gun to put him out of his misery when they ultimately decided to take him to the vet, just to be sure. He didn’t make a sound or move the entire way. The vet takes him in the back and then around ten minutes or so comes out with a cat purring wiggling in their arms. They’re ask if they are sure he was hurt; they explain, again what happens, and then the vet tells him the kitten was probably in shock.

So a couple of days later they’re telling me Shadow needs a special home because he’s a “special” home.

I look her straight in the eyes, and I’m like, you want to give me your dumbest cat?

A few days later I call her up and say let’s bring him in. If he goes for any of my cords, we’ll have a problem. My house is neither pet or kid safe, it’s just my oldest cat knows better. Obviously he got to stay, not only that though about a week later I am doing the furniture shimmy thing with a large book shelf. (It’s what you do when you have one set of hands and arms and don’t want to bother someone to drive over to move it one inch other.) He gets under it while I am still holding this massive thing, and I’m thinking oh no! I’m going to break his neck when can’t hold this thing anymore. What do I do. So I just sort of kick and hiss at him trying to get him out while not losing my balance or grip. Good news, he is still with us today.

Shadow got his name because he follows people around almost like a puppy. He isn’t the smartest but he was there because he likes being where others are and of course gets in the way when he does. He also chases shadows on the wall when they move, like when a car’s light makes them move, and he has knocked down a few pictures doing this. And the fact he is grey also works for his name, but yeah he is a dumped littler survivor. And I tried to get the other one from the litter but by the time i made up my mind, aka my precious older kitty didn’t seem THAT miserable from the addition, she had already given that one away.

I actually think Shadow would do pretty well with almost any cat; it’s the other cat’s tolerance I worry about. I would also get a like cat age or within a year or two, not a kitten. I am not sure I can handle a kitten again and, well, kittens get adopted pretty quickly.

I envy you cat people. Pets just walk into your home. I have never had a cute doggie sit on my porch waiting to come in. :(

I had a Siamese and Persian who got along pretty well because they were raised together. Sometimes they would fight but not seriously.

Later after they died I inherited a cat from my sister specifically because he would not get along with her other cats and was creating problems. He liked our dogs a lot though.

I am currently catless.

So you want catness?

Yes please.

I like brunette JLaw more than blonde JLaw.

From your description, since shadow is fully grown, i suspect you’d be ok getting another cat. Sounds like he won’t be aggressive towards a kitten of you got one (and then that kitten would just grow up with him). But if you don’t want to get a kitten for the reasons you stated, since shadow is full grown, you probably wouldn’t need to worry about him actually getting injured, so you’d likely only be risking some short term stress.

I can tell you that max and Claudia, who i got from the spca at the same time, fight with each other, but also enjoy each other’s company. I think it’s good for them to have each other when I’m not around.

You’re probably right.

I do haunt the local shelter and CATS organization. The next time a cat of the right age and maybe one that has to be indoors only, which mine is, like they’re declared or otherwise should be out, I might give it a go. Those older cats with any sort of need are harder for them to adopt, and an indoor only cat is exactly what I want. … I have also kept an eye out for pets that escaped the fire and didn’t get reunited with their family. A scarred kitty will be fine for me. Issues are mostly, I use a self feeder. Never had a cat that like gorges themselves or something. I know one person who like cooks food for her pets every night… not doing that. I don’t even do that for myself!

Our two little geniuses have separation anxiety if they’re not in the same room. They are completely inseparable.

They’re also currently super not happy about being stuck in the cones after getting fixed. Too bad, guys, I am really not interested in emergency vet bills because you decided to rip out your sutures.

This is the closest my two can get. The older one doesn’t want to deal with nonsense, and the younger one is all nonsense, all the time. Frenemies to the end, it seems, as it’s been about 7 months and this is about the best it gets between them.

Haha. Cute. Cats are so dang picky.

I found a German shepherd in a natural area parking lot.

I had her 6 years until she passed this year.

My neighbor brought a dog home with him from a party. Nobody owned it and it was simply following him.

The Christmas Eve my dad was dying, a German Shepherd showed up on our front porch to get out of the cold. My mom called him Gabriel and be started with her for about 15 years.

Introducing new cats is definitely a challenge. I had my $35 pet store rescue Maine Coon kitten, Bill, for nearly 18 years and he hated other animals. It wasn’t a case of “he’ll adjust.” He would start hyperventilating and arching and growling and not get any better over time, given his reaction to my childhood cats when I took him home to my parents in his youth. He wasn’t very fond of children either – when my nephews and nieces visited he would stand at the top of the stairs and hiss at them, daring them to come up. Total cuddle bug with my and my ex, though, and weirdly also good with my son Carter when he was born.

After that, though, went through a number of intros. Kittens always seem to do fine, as do adult cats when kittens are intro’d, but they of course carry their own issues. Wally, Bill’s successor, was an only cat for a while, but then we adopted an 8-year-old rescue girl, a sweet little Calico named Lilly. Lilly was never really warm to Wally, nor to us. She could get purry when you pet her, but she was mostly a loner. So we got a third cat, Sam, and she was a lap cat and would sit next to Wally whether or not he wanted her to. (They both ignored Lilly, for the most part, seeming to understand she didn’t want anything to do with them.) No real tension there.

Then poor Lilly passed and a year or so later Sammie got cancer at 12 and died very suddenly. Enter Loki, a long-haired black cat who was a big, sweet character. He and Wally took to each other with no issues after some initial hissing through the door.

This year has, sadly, ended up being a string of cat intros. Wally died from kidney failure at 17, so my ex got me Athena, the Maine Coon girl above. Then about two months later they both got upper respiratory infections and while Athena recovered, in Loki it triggered FIP (a freaking coronavirus) and the poor guy passed away far, far too young. Then I couldn’t find another cat due to the pandemic. Finally found Simon, who is the only cat I’ve ever purchased (vs paying shelter adoption fees). He’s a big goof and fellow cat-cuddler.

Then my son got wind from a friend that she had kittens to give away and we got Gus, who almost always sleeps either cuddled with another cat or against a human. Crazy insane kitten during the day, cuddler once he wears out.

Anyway, the worst reaction ever was indifference. Bill wouldn’t have been manageable with another cat, but that’s usually evident before any thought of getting another cat happens. The others all did fine after intro periods (closed door sniffing and Feliway dispensers).

And if you do bring home a shelter kitty and the reaction between the existing cat and the shelter kitty is just intractable, you can return the shelter kitty. That’s not failing or doing a bad thing, because in that situation it wouldn’t be the right home for the new cat anyway and you want that cat to have a comfortable home. I’ve been lucky that hasn’t happened.

Bill

Wally and Lilly

Wally and Sammie

Wally and Loki

Loki and Athena

Athena and Simon

Simon and Gus initial meeting

Simon and Gus nowadays

DATS A LOTTA FLOOFS OMG SO FLOOFY I WANT TO HUG THEM ALL

Aaw. They look so comfortable together in that last one.

Seriously, those guys are ridiculously well-posed. It looks like they went down to Olan Mills to have a portrait taken for the family archives. (Simon’s new job is working out great; he’s happy and the pay bump is icing on the cake. Gus is looking forward to school in the spring, but if the band starts getting regular gigs he might take a gap year and see how it goes.)

Harry, our older cat, passed away a few months ago. Matilda became a bit more reclusive after this, one because Harry was a big recluse and I also think she didn’t understand why Harry one day disappeared. We’ve been slowly working on bringing her out via treats and trying to help her be more social again.

It seems to be working.