3281

Colic, booooooo!

3282

Well, since I have your ear, let me just tell you something.

It’s one thing if she has trust issues. If she’s not willing to communicate in an honest fashion about what you see as issues in your relationship, though, that’s a much bigger problem.

If telling her that you see what she’s doing as a symbol of distrust, and passive aggressive to boot, and her response it to take offense or to turn it into an argument, then run.

Run, I say. For the hills.

3283

Hmm. Now that I think about it, I don’t think this really has anything to do with her not trusting me. She’s actually pretty laid back about what I do, and if I were some ass I could probably take advantage of that. I think it’s more like she just likes talking to me because she likes me that much. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind the contact, my issue was more with her saying I take too long to respond, thus making her think I’m not interested, not not interested in her, but not interested in what she has to say. How do I put it? She’s just overly friendly and likes to talk.

3284

That doesn’t sound like overly-friendly; that sounds like insecure. That might just be a description/communication issue with the forum setting, but frankly, her tactic is (as you describe it) blatantly passive-aggressive, and therefore unacceptable in a relationship, whose communication should always be predicated upon mutual good faith.

3285

Yeah. Not sure if I’m able to fully describe what’s bothering me. But the plan is to have a good discussion with her about it.

3286

My answer isn’t probably applicable to you, but I told her to cut the shit and either expect that sometimes I don’t answer right away, or it needs to end.

Guess what happened?

3287

I’m assuming you got out of that situation. I haven’t dated her too long and I think I’m too nice a guy sometimes, being too aware of saying something and hurting the other’s feelings. Having said that though, I’m thinking I should take advantage of an out here as I’ve suddenly realized in the last hour or so that I’m using her as a substitute for someone I’d much rather be with with but was an ass to and being a guy I’m not gonna admit I made a mistake
or will I?

Amazing how talking about one thing can make you realize what is really the problem.

3288

A real man is entirely capable of admitting his mistakes and explaining.

And a real man doesn’t leave a relationship without the courtesy to at least tell her what the reason is.

Talk to her about it. Not to see if she changes your mind or anything, but if nothing else, because nobody deserves to be dumped without knowing why.

3289

Yeah, time for me to deal with this. Both situations are gonna suck. One with the previous girlfriend because I hurt her for dumping her and trying to get her back is probably close to impossible, two with the current one because I will be asking to leave for a reason I know she will not be happy with, but you’re right, everyone deserves an explanation. I have a feeling the result will be that I will end up with a lot of free time catching up on games and/or movies.

3290

Here’s your conundrum though; do you still like the current girl? If the other girl is impossible, what is wrong with staying with the newer girl? Sure, she’s a bit insecure of the relationship, but that’s not something that can’t be worked on.

3291

After a few exchanges with you good folks I realized that my problem wasn’t so much with the new girl and her insecurity, it had to do with how much effort I wanted to put into making it work when my mind is elsewhere. I think it only fair to get out and lay low until I get the other one out of my system.

You know she was one of those “this is too good to be true” people that come into your life and that you’re stupid not to hang onto.

Like I mentioned, it wasn’t until I started to respond to your responses that I realized what was really my problem.

3292

You owe both of them a full explanation, mind. Don’t chicken out and not explain to your ex why you left and how much of an idiot you were for leaving
 but don’t do it to try to get her back, just give her an explanation because she deserves one.

It’s a fine line between “This information is relevant to you and you should know” and “I am desperate and want to get back together with you”, but err on the side of the former, not the latter. ;)

3293

Glad we could be of some help man! Happy you’re getting everything as sorted as you can :)

3294

What do you guys think about waiters or waitresses who vent to you and blame the cook(s) for screwing up your order or the food being really late in order to salvage a tip rather than just apologizing? Last time this happened we were cool with it because the waitress gave us free beers when we moved to the bar, but this one just totally threw the cook under the bus and she just seemed to be trying to cover her ass. I guess it depends on the situation.

3295

Spoke with her today fully expecting her to hang up on me and amazingly she said she was thankful to hear what my problem had been. I think we might actually be able to salvage a friendship here


3296

Funny how some strangers helped me with something pretty important. Thanks to all.

3297

Black cat on mah belly, keeping me warm!

3298


 and his name is Midnight!

3299

But I’m not his son!

3300

What the