I like that quote, and the article. I keep thinking hey, I’m 45, I’m probably due for a midlife crisis. But then I think to myself maybe not - I got mine out of the way in my mid 20s. I realize that sounds ridiculous, but all the earmarks of a midlife crisis that people mention, the dissatisfaction, the feeling of not having accomplished anything, and of being trapped - I felt that intensely when I was younger. Not the same thing maybe, but close enough for horseshoes, I’m thinking. I spent my mid to late 20s in a city where I know nobody except folks I worked with, and they all had families, no time for me. I couldn’t seem to meet anyone I really connected with. I had a job that frequently took me out of town and I jumped at those opportunities, I’d stay on the road for 2, 3 weeks at a time. I loved it, it kept me sane.
My travels finally pointed me to the place I live now, my favorite place I’ve ever been. And eventually, my wife and kids. I didn’t realize at the time, but I felt terribly lonely. As an only child, I don’t remember ever feeling that way growing up. I always appreciated my time alone. But getting older, I just felt left out. Didn’t realize it, but I was lacking in human connection. Why that’s easier now than it was then, who knows. But I can say I’ve reached a state of, if not happiness then definitely contentment. I wouldn’t change anything.
Personally, I don’t find the concept of “meaning of life” to have much meaning itself. It’s a blank slate, isn’t it? You make of it what you will. Hopefully, when it’s all done, you step back and say hey, not bad. That bit there could’ve been better but wow, check this part out! My son’s preschool had this book they would read just about everyday, about the bucket. Not a bucket list, but a bucket of fulfillment. If you were kind to someone, you were helping to fill their bucket. An unkind act, an insensitivity or thoughtless act, would take out of their bucket. And the goal was to help your friends fill their bucket. That’s as good a meaning of life as I’ve yet heard.