Should I go to my cousin’s baby’s christening? My cousin and I are not that close, we see each other three times a year, and the invitation is coming through my mom. We’re not a religious family anyway. I don’t really feel like going, but I’ll go if it is probably important to her.
Qt3, make up my mind for me.
I love you, but you’re a weenie.
Dude, if I have to go to the wedding of my the girl who my girlfriend’s ex-boyfriend cheated on her with, then you have to go to this. Period.
This is more interesting. Why do you have to go to it, though? Like, was your girlfriend friends with this girl before that happened, or did they bond over it, or what?
This is the sort of the stuff that falls into the category of family obligations that just need to be fulfilled regardless of how little interest you have in it.
Fine.
I disagree, but then again I tend to live by the following adage (which I think I invented, but am sure others have said it better and earlier than me):
God gives us friends because we can’t pick our families.
If I care about my cousins, I will attend their graduations, weddings, birthdays, etc. If I don’t, I won’t. It’s only my immediate family (parents, siblings) that I feel any obligation towards.
Her ex was kind of a cheaty dickhead anyway. She’d left him and gotten back with him a couple of times. She was back with him and her best friend introduced her to this other girl and they became friends. It turned out that she actually knew the restaurant that this other girl’s family owned cos, surprise, her boyfriend worked there as a bartender now and again. Eventually both of them realized that he was cheating on them both with eachother. And some other girls. So their friend is galvanized in how much they hate him.
The story has even weirder aspects, where my girl’s childhood best friend met the current best friend and the Other Woman and it turned out she was cousins with both of them and they didn’t even know they were cousins to each other.
If it was a sister or brother, sure, but a cousin he’s not close to?
I wouldn’t go.
I hate these, but always have to go. At least the food has been great the last couple times. In fact I only see my cousins anymore at these.
If it’s the Catholic rite at least you get to mutter to yourself “no, he rocks” when the priest asks if you all renounce Satan and his evil deeds.
I voted Yes, but my caveat is “Only if it’s close to where you live”. If you have to take a flight or drive more than 90 minutes to get there, fuck it.
I skipped all of my cousins’ weddings because I was too cheap and lazy to fly around the country, but in retrospect I kind of regret not going. A christening is not something you travel long distances for though, in my mind.
Jesus Christ, it wouldn’t even be on the table if that were the case.
Hell yes. My position is that just because you happen to share genetic material with somebody places you under absolutely NO obligation to like that person, or to treat them in an other way than you’d treat any other human being (hopefully politely, but beyond that pfft).
We choose our families as we grow. If some of that family happens to also be “blood” relatives, hopefully that is because you actually like them, not due to some guilt or notion that it is “supposed to be that way”.
Do you live in a really small town or something? Jesus.
Attend, then make some horrible faux pas that will ensure you’ll never be invited again. Problem solved!
Let’s ignore extarbags’ story and vote in the poll for bahimiron instead!
You stole my response.
Wasn’t that an episode of 30 Rock?
I’d go just to see them break the bottle of champagne on the baby’s head.
Go if they are serving free food and booze. That is how I always make up my mind to go or not…