Yes, I have experienced severe depression due to a chemical imbalance in my younger days. It completely destroyed my life, and in many ways I still haven’t quite recovered from the financial and emotional damage to my life I caused during that time. It ended my time at college, while leaving me in enough crushing debt that I can never finish, making any sort of well-paying career more of a pipe dream for me than a possibility.
I’m a person who tends to role-play out situations in my head in order to guess at the possible outcomes and consequences any actions I take may have, and believe me, there was a good few months where suicide was a daily consideration.
Obviously I didn’t carry through on those thoughts, though I’m still slowly working at fixing my own self-made problems, and desperately trying not to slip back down that hill for every few steps I make forward.
Now, I of course won’t claim to have nice statistical evidence of exactly why anyone commits suicide, and what I do base my opinion on is purely anecdotal from what I’ve read or seen in the news, as well as exprienced first or second hand through those around me.
I do believe people can be attention seeking despite never actually being around to experience the reaction their actions cause. People who vandalize something belonging to another, for example, rarely stick around for the eventual discovery, but I would argue that there is something of an egotisitcal, yet anonymous, bit of attention sought in the power to affect the life of others.
During my thoughts of suicide, I would often find myself thinking about how others would find my lifeless body, and those thoughts would provide a horrible bit of satisfaction. A good number of suicides are done specifically so that the person will be found by someone they know.
There are suicide notes that are quite detailed in naming names of others. There are people who commit suicide in spectacular ways that very much inconvenience and affect others, jumping off of highway bridges, stepping front of trains, “suicide by cop”, etc.
I know, not all suicides are the same, I’m not going to claim they are. However, I will make the claim that a good number of suicides are done despite the grief, pain, turmoil and anger they cause to people who have reason to know them, and I personally find that rather selfish.
I believe there in nearly all suicidal actions, there is no emotional, psychological or financial pain that outweighs that which you are causing on those you leave behind.