Raife
2641
Apparently I have anti-autism, because I scored way lower than 16.
It’s not so much a lack of tact as it is being an asshole, though. I guess the difference is awareness.
divorced
2642
Well, considering you feel qualified to make such a statement based on a few lines of text, I’ll take that as a compliment. You are free to have whatever opinion you want, but I expect you probably find friendships difficult to come by seeing as you jump to conclusions so rapidly with little or no actual knowledge. Here’s hoping you show a little more maturity at some point in the future. You’ll generally find that devolving into elementary-school level name-calling really makes you look exceptionally juvenile, not that I think you are worried about that. But maybe one day…
Until then, I have no interest in getting down into the mud with you. I’ll let you have it all and will happily ignore any further postings by you on the subject.
Every post by everyone on here has been warranted since you don’t try to help your situation, only exacerbate it by posting “Oh I’m not going down to your level!” comments instead of clarifying things so we can help you, which is why you posted it in the first place.
If you were trying to get reassurances, well, buddy, you’ve got another thing coming.
DrCrypt
2646
Says the man whose relationship “problem” is straight out of the Livejournal entry of a maudlin 16 year old girl. “A cheater might be talking to my girlfriend on Facebook!” Heaven forfend!
I’m sorry to break this to you, but I’m a normal, well-adjusted person with a career he’s happy with. I’m in a loving relationship and I have no problem making or keeping life-long friends. And guess what? I still think you’re jealous, petty, and pushing for your relationship to come crashing down around you. Which it probably will unless you can get past your penchant for trashy teenage romantic melodrama.
WarrenM
2647
Bah, trust but verify.
Good god, absolutely not. If you feel the need to verify, the relationship is broken. Her word has to be good enough or it’s not going to work, long term.
Scored a 3. Agree with everything Crypt said.
Arbit
2650
Just the fact that you have your girlfriend’s facebook login and read her email is all I need to know to know something is seriously fucked up. I don’t think you have any idea how weird your surveillance program sounds to people in normal relationships.
Shadarr
2651
I know! It was hard, I had to dump two women to get here.
Now that the divorced flamewar is (hopefully) winding down, I’ll point out that the advice I give to someone I know and care about might not always be the same as I give to some complete stranger attention whoring on the internet.
I think the STD thing is a bad indicator of trust. I’d get one if a girl asked me to, and have. She did the same. It’s a bonding thing!
sinfony
2653
Especially with a new partner, and especially because it’s perfectly possible for people to have an STD and not know about it.
Shadarr
2654
So, heard back from the quiver-match girl today. She didn’t answer (or acknowledge) any of my questions, but thanked me for replying. Umm… you’re welcome? Honest to god, if this was Craigslist I would assume she was a bot.
edit: also, desperation act number 5!
noun
2655
Brutal honesty is not the same thing as autism.
Edit: Oh wait a minute. Are you seriously suggesting that EVERYone who says what they really think and isn’t worried about hurting someone’s feelings is autistic? Really?
Maybe she is! (Trust, but verify)
Kael, shut up. Crypt is talking the closest thing to sense in this stupid thread. Do you even know what autism is?
malkav11
2657
Yep. It may be awkward to bring up, but it’s just a fact of modern sexuality: they’re out there, and it’s a good idea to play it safe. Hell, I’d be willing to get one and I’m a virgin - I just know there are STDs that are also transmitted in other ways. Such as HIV. (Though I’m pretty darn sure I don’t have -that-.)
Just don’t sit on public toilet seats, okay?
Leaving aside for the moment the faithfulness of people using Facebook and whether you can turn gay by using a public washroom, here are my last two online dating experiences.
The first has been a series of postponed meetings, with the last postponement coming via text message an hour beforehand. Said person allegedly works for Air Canada and claims things have been a bit hectic since the would-be terrorist attack. He suggested rescheduling but did not suggest when. I consider this one now dead in the water.
The second person and I had agreed to meet today, pushing it back a few days because we both had colds. Except he just texted me and says he has bronchitis and wants to reschedule for next week. This one is not quite dead in the water, more like laying on the shore with the waves gently lapping up against the body, waiting for the tide to drag it out to sea.
However, in the spirit of a new year, I have decided to turn these negatives into positives and will be writing a book based on my experiences or lack thereof!
To be fair, if he does work for Air Canada, I would expect things to be hectic. People go crazy over the least little incident in air travel.