That only proves you’re a masochist.
Yes! Be a van part, if that’s what the guy is into.
That is reasonable if and only if you actually include interesting things in your profile. I am not a professional comedian. I do not climb on stage every night and perform humorous monologues about the subjects relevant to your interests. The part that’s annoying isn’t the people who write stuff that’s actually interesting - it’s the people who write four paragraphs total about how they love to “go out” and “have fun.” Sites need to appoint a referee to read every profile and make individualized calls as to whether you can be afforded the right to disregard a message because it’s not personal enough on the basis of how much actual personality you’ve demonstrated. If I like the way you look and I want to start a conversation and you give me nothing, I mean, cut me some slack here.
Lorini
3086
Brian I’ll accept that. Yes, if someone puts up a two line description of something they don’t deserve much because there’s nothing to go on anyway. I happen to have a lot more than that in my description so I was reacting in a personal way.
WarrenM
3087
Apparently. After pointing out that I am, in fact, male, he wrote back with “are you up for some gay fun”. And then “what part of van are you”.
Being straight I’m unfamiliar with “gay fun”. Please elaborate.
Griddle
3088
Oooooh baby, I’m a hot hot quarter-panel, come buff my finish, you know you want it, yeahhhhhhh!!!
Hahaha, van part, classic.
Shadarr
3090
Four paragraphs? Man, your standards are high. I only get annoyed by the ones who write two lines or less.
In other news, things are going well with the lawyer. We met at a pub on Monday around 9 and chatted till after 12:30. She looked through my sex ed manuals and we had a fabulous time. When I dropped her off, she kissed me on the cheek. I’m not sure what that means.
Then yesterday, we were trying to set up a date to see something at the Victoria Film Fest for Saturday and I asked whether she wanted to see Maltese Falcon in half an hour, half kidding. But she did, so we did. We missed the first 10 minutes but it was fun. I’m not really worried about whether we’re just friends, whatever happens happens. We’ve got plans to see Pirate Radio on Saturday, and probably another film noir (Double Indemnity I think) next Tuesday.
On top of that, I’m going out with the nurse for dinner and stand-up on Friday. All this dating will help fill the time while my XBox is on vacation to Redmond, not being fixed but still being shipped there and back so they can confirm it’s broken and Future Shop will replace it.
JoshV
3091
This may be a bad metric, but for me at least, I found that if I got a good first kiss in on our first date, the relationship would go somewhere, and if I didn’t, the relationship would peter out fast.
Griddle
3092
I never did gauge a potential partner on what the first kiss, or lack thereof was like. My criteria was more of, did I feel nervous, or was I at ease with this woman. Eventually the kissing and such will take place if all things fall into place right, I never sweat that, I need to feel at ease or I bail. Don’t know what that says about me, it’s just how my brain operates. I think the fact that you guys are at ease, have fun, and continue to communicate says good things about your chemistry. I could be totally wrong though.
Shadarr
3093
Regarding the “gay fun” guy, that just makes no sense to me. These sites are set up explicitly to allow that sort of thing. If you want to have discrete sex with men, pick those options in your profile. You can have another profile if you also want to find a woman to cheat on long term.
Shadarr
3094
That’s how I approach things. I’ve never kissed a woman on a first date, and yet I’ve had relationsihips. Obviously it must’ve worked itself out somehow.
Speculation on my part because I don’t hang around with closeted men (to my knowledge!) but “gay fun” guy (whose profile notes that he is “from the London UK”) is probably trying to maintain the veneer that he is straight (“normal”) by stating so in his profile then goes about trying to meet up with guys who identify themselves as gay by sending out simple greetings en masse until someone responds. He then hits them with the “gay fun” – which in this case would be like dating the gay equivalent of the 40 year old virgin, except with the bonus baggage of someone who’s been living a lie for the past 25-30 years.
I actually feel a bit sorry for the POF guy. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to live your entire adult life denying who you are.
In other dating news, Bronchitis Guy is tired but staying in touch, I have a date tentatively setup in a few weeks with someone who is traveling until then and last night got a polite rejection from another guy, which is incredibly rare in my experience, silence being far more likely.
Dating Site eHarmony Settles Same-Sex Class Action for $2 Million
Money quote: “My dating advice: whether you’re on eHarmony or Compatible Partners, start looking for people who express an interest in litigation and bisexuality. If the settlement is approved, chances are those people are going to have a little extra spending cash pretty soon.”
ElGuapo
3097
That’s some bullshit. Why don’t the same-sex daters just use another site? And why can’t eHarmony charge twice? It’s a totally different website and I’m sure it took time and effort to set up.
That is reasonable if and only if you actually include interesting things in your profile. I am not a professional comedian. I do not climb on stage every night and perform humorous monologues about the subjects relevant to your interests.
It amazes me that Lorini’s request generates any controversy at all. This is how people initiate communication, by finding mutual interests and then talking about them. It’s not rocket science. Imagine walking up to someone at a bar and saying “hmm, you seem to be female. I seem to be male. Let us procreate.” Yeah ok, they probably do that at some bars, but that’s more of a one-night-stand kinda thing, not long-term dating, which is what a lot of us seem to be after.
If I’m going to take the trouble to email a woman whose profile I like, of course I’m going to mention something specific in that profile. I’m not sending out form letters here. If I don’t like the profile, I don’t send the email.
ElGuapo
3099
In our broomball league one of the teams needs more girls so our team has to trade one of ours. My advice to the team captain on IM today:
“Trade an ugly one.”
