3241

Ah you guys give me such hope! I knew my son would be the thing that filtered me out. Eh. I set my expectations low in terms of responses because of it. Still going to try and get a date or two.

3242

Has TV taught us nothing? Doesn’t that lead to nothing but hilarity?

3243

BAM! You did not just say that!!!

3244

Interesting, originally posted on 4chan. (!!!)

3245

heh, just saw an ad at the top of this page for ashleymadison.com which apparently is for you to hook up with married women… Tom’s values are interesting ;)

3246

Very interesting article. I wonder why racism is the default explanation though. As a white male I’m open to dating outside my race, but my attraction is limited to those whose facial and body morphologies are similar to those of a typical white woman. Color doesn’t matter to me, but size and shape of the body and body parts do. Is that racist? I don’t think so. I can’t control who I’m physically attracted to and who I’m not. And it has nothing to do with who I can be friends with or work with as a colleague or anything like that.

3247

Wow, they claim it’s racism? That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. I don’t dislike other races, I’m just more attracted to people of my own. That’s not ‘racism’ in the sense that I’m being a bigot; if I fell in love with an Asian or African or Native American girl I’d be just as willing to date them. Racism would preclude that even though I may like their personality, I wouldn’t date them based on their skin tone. Which is not the case in this study; people have not met these other people, they know them based on a small paragraph and potentially a formula, and find that they don’t think them physically attractive.

Oh lord, the ‘racism’.

3248

IIRC, what you’re attracted to as an adult is imprinted very early as a child. You’ll tend to find the same body types, skin color, and (uh oh, skin thief) faces attractive as what you saw when you were young.

With that in mind, I wonder if a predominately white Television is one of the causes of the “White men get more responses” result.

3249

So because I am attracted to black women, I have a better chance of hooking up on OKCupid? Good to know.

3250

They mention racism exactly once during that post. However, they also show that very few people have outspoken racist beliefs (interracial marriage variable). The important finding is rather that colour-blindness is utter bullshit (something that anti-racism advocates completely agree with, in my experience). Of course, a lot of these findings could be theoretically connected to factors that have to do with structural racism.

3251

Speaking of interracial dating, I noticed that several months ago EHarmony ads started featuring interracial couples. I think they’d gotten some heat for their previous ads that showed nothing of this kind.

So, good for them, I guess.

3252

Last night had date #3 with a young lady I hadn’t hung out with in a few weeks. For whatever reason after about a half hour I just had no interest in romance with her anymore. She’s cool and has the body and all that, but something about our personalities just wasn’t meshing. But the sushi and sake was damn good anyway.

3253

They would find the same thing if they put up stats on how hair color affects messages.

3254

Yay for Ned!

3255

It was very surprising and sad to me to see how many men on Match.com would date females of any race except black. And yes, I commend Eharmony for being nearly the only interracial advertising on TV.

3256

It’s probably a mix of human nature and racism. I probably have no basis for guessing a percentage split, but I’d guess 80/20 if pushed.

3257

I actually blame TV for perpetuating a lot of stereotypes about black women. Advertising doesn’t help much either.

3258

Cheering is probably premature but the sentiment is appreciated. We really clicked on one level (hubba hubba), it remains to be seen if there’s anything beyond that.

On matters of race, I’m not very fly for a white guy but I’ve dated Asian, black, Hispanic, Indian and probably some others I’m leaving out. I really don’t look at the color of a person’s skin. Most of these dates didn’t conform to any particular stereotypes, they were all just regular guys. I may benefit from growing up in a small town with a lot of different ethnicities mixed together.

3259

I grew up in a pretty much 100% white hick town and have dated various other races. I think it probably has to do with the fact that although I won’t claim looks aren’t important, intelligence and personality are a lot more important. Hot is hot though, and it has nothing to do with skin colour or racial features. Of the three hottest girls I’ve dated, only one was white.

Which is just a roundabout way of saying Demon G Sides is racist.

3260

Dude, you don’t have to be racist to end up with a general profile in your dating history. I tend to be attracted to the following features:

  1. Smaller than me, or, if not smaller than me, at least not wider than me in the shoulders and able to snap me in half like a twig;

  2. Straight hair. Long or short are fine either way, but straight seems to be the way it goes;

  3. Fine bone structure; thin face (longer than it is wide) doesn’t hurt and I guess it goes in this category.

The result? I don’t find a whole lot of black women attractive. There are some, but they’re a minority in the population, particularly in the part of the country where I live, if casual observation is any kind of guide. White people are about 50/50. Korean and Japanese ladies have a leg up on the competition. I don’t think that makes me a racist - some physical preferences just break down across the human species that way. I’ll talk to anybody, and if your profile is interesting enough to catch my eye in the few words that get thrown at me by whatever search functionality is on the site, I’ll hop in and read it and maybe get interested, but if we’re filtering based solely on appearance, that’s how things are going to break down for me.

Am I horrible? Lord knows I’ve spent enough time FEELING horrible about this over the past few years. Back when there was a The Onion Personals I had a profile on there, and they saved your search settings as your preferences, and after sorting through about a hundred and fifty women around me whom I simply did not find attractive at all, I decided to go ahead and take a chance and narrow out the African American population just to save time sifting through the otherwise unmitigated mess of crap that was my search results. Within maybe a week somebody had contacted me to call me a horrible racist. I STILL feel bad about the fact that I am not attracted to certain physical features that show up disproportionately across racial groups.