3261

That’s absolutely normal. You should not feel bad about that. There is clear scientific literature regarding interracial-face-recognition-deficit.

http://www.google.com/search?q=interracial-face-recognition-deficit

3262

Next OKC exposé: homosexuals are sexist.

3263

The third hit for that is this page.

3264

It’s now the second hit. Go go google indexing algorithms!

aka “own-race effect”

3265

My thing is (and I know it’s hardly an uncommon preference) that I want a woman that’s not grossly overweight (20 lbs over is about my limit, if she’s really cute), that’s generally smaller than me (mostly in the past my girlfriends have been about 5’3" to 5’7"), and that she have somewhat delicate, feminine facial features, and skin that’s not horribly sun-damaged.

I tend to find mixed-race black women often quite hot (for an example of a celebrity in this camp, look no further than Beyoncé, yowza). Women from the Indian subcontinent can be stunning, as can East Asians. But I must admit a weakness for freckly redheads and auburn-haired women with skin like alabaster. If I only had Dennis Kucinich’s mojo, I’d be all set.

sigh I need to get laid.

3266

Meh, I don’t generally find 99.9% of black women attractive. You really shouldn’t apologise for personal preference -life is too
short for that.

3267

Why am I not surprised that you’re racist?

3268

It’s because I prefer Hellgate:London to Borderlands isn’t it?

Edit: I’m easy to troll.

3269

Is it weird I don’t find many black women attractive but can really appreciate a good looking black man? (And I’m straight.)

3270

Sweet! OKCupid sez I have a high chance of getting an older woman. Cougars beware.

Actually, it doesn’t address why this is the case for older women. Why do you think older, single women have more lax (not lower) standards compared to their younger counterparts?

3271

Desperation?

Honestly, I think it’s the ingrained sense of competition. Older women are given the idea that the majority of their target dating pool will be focused on the younger generation of women, so competition is going to be even higher for them - therefore, they’re willing to broaden their gaze.

3272

I’ve been gazing at my male dogs at this point (jk)

3273

That is a fantastic advert.

3274

“I’m on a horse.”

3275

I have been trying to work that line into casual conversation for the last week. My wife and I saw that ad during Mythbusters last Monday and absolutely died laughing.

3276

Whoever is doing these ads for Old Spice deserves more money. Is this the same firm that cooked up the whole Bruce Campbell thing from last year?

3277

I guess I’m weirder than I thought, I’m the exact opposite of the average man my age. I had my search settings at 26-44 (I’m 34) and even then I hardly messaged anyone under 30. I sure as hell never went below my search settings. I guess I did technically message one 22-year-old, but only to tell her I wished she was 10 years older.

The case in favour of older women is the whole second half of the article. Excluding the hottest and ugliest 10%, 35 year old women are about as hot as 25 year olds. On top of that they are happier, want sex more, enjoy giving oral sex more and are more willing to try a threesome. And while it’s not covered in the article, I can also say from my own experience that they’re a lot better at sex as well. The major downside with women in the 30-45 age range is that a lot of them have kids, but they’re also more willing to have casual sex if you’re into that.

3278

I’m fine with older women. I just don’t really see why they would go for me. (Kids and having a couple of decades worth of dating baggage are also turnoffs, but as far as the latter, the odds of me stumbling across a dateable woman of around my age who’s as inexperienced as I am are slim indeed.)

3279

Obviously it’s not a published paper or anything, but it seems more than a little disingenuous to start with a conclusion and then look for data to support it. For me, the issues with dating an older woman is less about beauty (I actually think women in their 30’s and 40’s are generally more attractive than those in their 20’s). Rather it’s about kids. As discussed previously I, like a lot of people, am not interested in a relationship with someone who already has kids, something that is much more likely with older women.

That said, I think I’d like to raise my own family, but I’d really like to get started before either of us hits 35. Earlier is even better. When you factor in the giant timeline (time to find a compatible partner, go through courtship, get married, get settled, have kids), starting off with someone who’s already older makes things tricky. I’d have no problems dating an older woman, but I don’t really see myself starting a family with one.

3280

Putting those kinds of expectations on a potential relationship tends to leach the potential out of the relationship.