So is Facebook becoming a viable way to find dating/relationship subjects now? I always thought that the controls regarding friends and information made it almost impossible to get any idea about who you’re contacting. I’ve read about numerous experiences where people hooked up via Facebook and unless they knew eachother beforehand, I’ve no idea how they even found eachother, much less worked out they were compatible enough to date.
Eh…you’re not sharing information that’s not already public information.
This is a hookup from a third party, Facebook is just how we’re getting in touch.
Oops missed a redacted… meh
Facebook has some incredibly rudimentary “hey, lookin to date” type settings, but since there is zero information about most people before friending, it seems like a poor choice for that sort of thing.
It’s essentially a sometimes-optional stage in the process of dating people you meet in real life. You meet them, you friend them… sometimes you both have “single” in your profile, maybe not, you exchange messages or wall posts or whatever, etc. It’s as much a part of dating as it is a part of making friends, at least for my generation. If you go without Facebook, you’re almost guaranteed to be excluding yourself socially. Also, in my experience women tend to be a little more overt in their interest over Facebook than they are in person.
I haven’t actually used any dating sites, in large part because I don’t live in an area where you can get a high enough population to do it effectively, but I have gotten together with people over Facebook a couple of times, and more often than not it’s the woman who took the initiative there - though that’s largely because as a rule I’d rather make a phone call or be face-to-face than use any sort of text for that kind of thing.
I don’t mean to say that you’d ostracize yourself - people do go without Facebook - but it inevitably leads to not finding out about parties and other social gatherings, Facebook is generally how people keep track of birthdays, plus a host of other social interactions - some of which are of course utterly pointless. Still, even those of us who would otherwise go without find it pragmatic not to.
Why’s Lionel Richie calling himself “Sam”? Is this like a Ron Mexico thing?
Scrax
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That’s actually a rather nice, well-written message. If it wasn’t a blind message through facebook, I would be more than interested in meeting him if I was the chick.
Something about the “popular cafes” bit is sitting weird with me. “I have an oyster in my hand. Inside are two tickets to that thing you like. Look down. Look back. The tickets are now diamonds!”
That said, Richard Pryor definitely deserves a shot, especially when he comes back from the grave to ask people for 57 minutes of their time.
I love that ad so, so, so very much. “I’m on a horse.”
Leo Laporte had a 20-minute interview with the guys who wrote the ad, and they explained how it was done. Other than the diamonds and the Old Spice bottle coming up out of his hand, there was no CG trickery.
Juste
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That was amazing. “I’m on a horse” is now my new mantra.
Now that the Olympics are over, the dating calls have started flooding in!
Actually, I did get a message from POF guy out of the blue after he dropped contact for a number of weeks (not the formerly married one, the one I linked to way back). He regaled me with horror stories of health and social problems and described himself as a ‘sociopath and nutter magnet’. He said he was still open to meeting up.
Another potential date has been postponed due to what seems to be some new illness making the rounds, but we have been keeping in touch through MSN/Live/Windows/Whatever they hell Microsoft is calling their IM client these days. We may meet next week. He told me I looked like I enjoyed snuggling, which seemed an odd thing to take from my profile photo.
An actual not-yet-canceled date is set for this Saturday at a local pub with one of the rare people to contact me first. We’ve had a pleasant chat already, so we’ll see where it goes.
The two “I’ll contact you after the Olympics are over and it’s not all crazy hectic” guys have, shockingly, not said a peep. I guess the Olympics were the new, if temporary, “don’t call me, I’ll call you.”
As always, people are weird.
Man, Ned :(
Two of my dates blew me off, but the third went alright. I met up with the Science teacher at a cafe on Sunday. It turned out to be a gorgeous day, so I suggested we get the drinks to go. We headed over to a nearby dog park for some people (err, dog?) watching.
The date ended with a hug. I guess it went alright since we’re on for a second.
I have two other’s lined up this week. The first is with an amateur actor / standup comic who does non-profit work to pay the bills. We’re meeting Thursday at a comedy club in SF, but I’m already a bit leery. We’ve been chatting on IM and she seems interesting. I’m hesitant because already she kinda had a freak out about her ex-bf finding someone (and mentioned it to me seethingly just as the news broke).
In response I got on the soap box about ‘relationships’, but quickly realized that was the wrong move. So, I stepped down and just capped the conversation with “Who cares, word on the street is you have a hot date on Thursday.” She smiled, changed topics, and confirmed we’re on for Thursday. Hopefully that means she’s cool and tomorrow’s date won’t be nucking futs. She seems great, otherwise.
And finally, I’m meeting a Casual Game Designer at a Microbrewery for dinner / drinks on Saturday. She’s hot, nerdy, and seems entirely out of my league. It’ll be an interesting experience, at least.
Also, after a few edits my profile went from no activity to multiple views a day. I attribute it to the new and improved absence of skin thiefy-ness, so good job QT3.
Shadarr
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Blew you off as in cancelled or stood you up? That’s one thing I never had to deal with, thank god. I had plenty of women disappear or ignore the part of my message where I asked them out, but once we actually agreed to meet we did meet. I wonder what that’s about. Did you have some inkling they might be flakey ahead of time?
I’m hesitant because already she kinda had a freak out about her ex-bf finding someone (and mentioned it to me seethingly just as the news broke).
On the one hand, she probably isn’t totally over her ex, which is bad. On the other hand it could mean she feels comfortable talking to you, which is good. My new girlfriend and I talked about everything including exes on our first date, and it seems to be working out swimmingly. But the fact she’s upset about him dating, and even the fact she knows he’s dating, is a bit of a red flag.
And finally, I’m meeting a Casual Game Designer at a Microbrewery for dinner / drinks on Saturday. She’s hot, nerdy, and seems entirely out of my league. It’ll be an interesting experience, at least.
Bah, never think someone is out of your league. I went into every date with the attitude that I am an awesome boyfriend looking for a girlfriend awesome enough to deserve me. Confidence is a turn on, inferiority is a turn-off. If you go in thinking you deserve a woman like her, maybe she will too.
Also, after a few edits my profile went from no activity to multiple views a day. I attribute it to the new and improved absence of skin thiefy-ness, so good job QT3.
Hive mind ftw!
