That Internet dating thing

[BobJustBob]

I GET IT

[Tortilla]

Warren seems to think El Guapo needs a lot of chastisement for being awesome.

[WarrenM]

Just need Rimbo and the crew will be complete. Good job, guys!

[Leah_C]

Oh oh! Two dating stories!

1. Met a girl at a local place around here. Her pictures were cute, she was maybe a little top heavy in her pics, but seemed ok. Pretty redhead, my weakness. Showed up at the place we agreed to meet and she was easily 60-70 lbs over what her pics showed. What the fuck? Still, I didn’t want to be an asshole and just back out so I ended up buying her two drinks and two appetizers. She snarfed them down. Kind of annoying, but what can you do. From the moment she sat down I knew I would never see her again because I was not attracted to her at all. Should I have just left? I hate hurting people’s feelings.

This happened to a friend of mine recently. The guy she met posted pictures of him at a normal size with a full head of hair. She met a balding, overweight man 10+ years older than his pic showed. She looked at him funny, he asked what was up, and she said “Did you REALLY think I wouldn’t notice you used old pictures??” and she left.

I get that people want to show themselves at their most attractive but eventually you move from “this is a nice photo of me” to “I am totally lying to get a date” and the latter is a situation where I think it’s ok to hurt some feelings.

[ElGuapo]

… Attention Whore pic

Warren, I’m never going to sleep with you. Quit trying.

[Lunch_of_Kong]

It’s all chemistry.

Money helps too.

[Tortilla]

Just need Rimbo and the crew will be complete. Good job, guys!

That last birthday wasn’t kind to you, was it?

Don’t worry, I’ll stay off your lawn.

[WarrenM]

Warren, I’m never going to sleep with you. Quit trying.

I understand that you need to keep your fan club entertained, and that’s fine. Some guys need to live vicariously through others and I get that - I really do. Just don’t be surprised if every now and then I call you on your attention whoring to keep the universe in balance. That’s all. I don’t need or want your dick anywhere near me, thanks.

[Creole_Ned]

This happened to a friend of mine recently. The guy she met posted pictures of him at a normal size with a full head of hair. She met a balding, overweight man 10+ years older than his pic showed. She looked at him funny, he asked what was up, and she said “Did you REALLY think I wouldn’t notice you used old pictures??” and she left.

I get that people want to show themselves at their most attractive but eventually you move from “this is a nice photo of me” to “I am totally lying to get a date” and the latter is a situation where I think it’s ok to hurt some feelings.

It’s not even that you’re hurting their feelings necessarily, you’re just being honest about their lack of the same. The reaction on being called on it can vary anywhere from being hurt to resentful to indifference (“Damn, thought the old photos and my smooth charm would work. Oh well.”)

I’ve met a few people who had suspiciously cropped or posed photos and in each case it was because they were overweight – sometimes not by a lot, but it was clear they were trying to hide it. Kind of like people who for the purposes of a dating profile consider obese to be an “average” build (though it’s getting there!)

As for tales o’ sexual conquest and/or tips, just be glad I don’t share mine. :P I think it’s pretty easy for a reasonably attractive adult to find a willing sex partner, so it’s not exactly a feat I am going to ooh and aah over, regardless of the orientation of the individual. Come back ten years later to tell me your relationship is still intact and healthy, then I’ll ooh and aah.

[Lunch_of_Kong]

make sure to wash your hands thoroughly before taking out your contacts

Rub some vagisil in there to get the redness out

Darnit, I wanna make an okcupid account now just to see if I’m compatible with elguapo and siren and ned.

[Mightynute]

I’ve met a few people who had suspiciously cropped or posed photos and in each case it was because they were overweight – sometimes not by a lot, but it was clear they were trying to hide it. Kind of like people who for the purposes of a dating profile consider obese to be an “average” build (though it’s getting there!)

I agree here. One of my personal filters on a dating site is “If she only has photos that show her face, she’s likely hiding something” - and it’s not like I haven’t dated full-figured women before, but I personally don’t want to deal with someone who feels the need to hide what they look like.

The whole “build” can be deceiving, though. By weight and BMI, the charts put me in borderline “dangerously obese”, but visually I fall right on the line between “solidly average” and “a few extra pounds” - so I tend to err on the side of the latter, figuring that someone who’s hung up on that particular qualifier would appreciate the honesty.

[jeffd]

Warren seems to think El Guapo needs a lot of chastisement for being awesome.

Heh, ElG may be awesome - but he is 100% an attention whore.

[WarrenM]

As for tales o’ sexual conquest and/or tips, just be glad I don’t share mine. :P I think it’s pretty easy for a reasonably attractive adult to find a willing sex partner, so it’s not exactly a feat I am going to ooh and aah over, regardless of the orientation of the individual. Come back ten years later to tell me your relationship is still intact and healthy, then I’ll ooh and aah.

Ding!

[Shadarr]

Heh, ElG may be awesome - but he is 100% an attention whore.

Sure, but so is Warren.

[Mightynute]

Heh, ElG may be awesome - but he is 100% an attention whore.

My Guide to QT3 Posters says:

ElGuapo - star of the second season of First Date Smoochin’. Witness a man’s quest to bed the entire DC Metro!

You can be an attention whore as long as you’re entertaining.

[WarrenM]

Sure, but so is Warren.

So I should be able to identify one, right? I guess I’m right on target, thanks for the confirmation.

[Creole_Ned]

A good story is a good story. I don’t care too much about the motivation of the poster.

On a completely random note, it still irritates me that my strongest match on OKCupid is my best friend and there is no way to filter the results so he doesn’t show up in slot #1. Or maybe there is and I just haven’t looked hard enough for it.

[jeffd]

In more relevant topics: Got messaged yesterday by a seemingly hot girl complimenting my profile. Several messages later and we’re setting up a date - hopefully this will turn out well.

The date’s I’ve had from online dating have mostly been meh. A lot of sitting around talking over basics - where do you work, oh that’s interesting tell me all about it. Probably that’s my fault as much as anything else; I was in a pretty long relationship in my early & mid twenties and so I’m behind the curve on dating skills. For this one I’ve resolved not to allow us to have any kind of boring mundane conversations. I’m not sure how the fuck I’m going to pull that off, though!

[jeffd]

A good story is a good story. I don’t care too much about the motivation of the poster.

On a completely random note, it still irritates me that my strongest match on OKCupid is my best friend and there is no way to filter the results so he doesn’t show up in slot #1. Or maybe there is and I just haven’t looked hard enough for it.

Next to every result there’s a hide button dude. Click it and you’ll never see him again. I make judicious use of it - one of the problems I have is that there are a lot of poly chicks on OKC looking for a third player for their relationship. They all list themselves as single too, which is obnoxious.

[Shadarr]

On a completely random note, it still irritates me that my strongest match on OKCupid is my best friend and there is no way to filter the results so he doesn’t show up in slot #1. Or maybe there is and I just haven’t looked hard enough for it.

You can probably block him.