3381

Oh fuck yes this is annoying. Seriously, have those people just not found Craigslist?

3382

Be a jerk about it why don’t you.

3383

All my dates were like that, until the one that wasn’t. That was the first thing I noticed that made me think maybe I’d found a keeper, there weren’t really any topic starters or awkward pauses or even effort, we just talked like people who’ve known each other forever. You can’t plan for that. You can presumably make the conversation more interesting, as an exercise in self-entertainment, but that’s not going to make it a better date in terms of finding somebody you click with.

3384

Hey, I offered to set you up with that chick in Portland and you weren’t interested. That’s well beyond simply not making the effort.

3385

Be a jerk about it why don’t you.

Well, he DID say “reasonably attractive”…

3386

I don’t recall this.

That was the jerky part, because it was the only out for anyone who doesn’t find meeting people easy.

3387

I’ll have all of you know that I am currently resisting the urge to jump through the internet and punch each and every one of you in the brain. “I have to filter out thousands of hot ladies who totally want to have sex with me,” and “how do I deal with this horrible, terrible, vile, disgusting situation where some incredibly attractive woman keeps ambushing me for sex without commitment or obligation.” Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth. There’s totally a joke there that I’m not going to make.

I’m dangerously close to invoking the kindergarten classroom rule here, people - if you didn’t bring enough sex for everybody, you don’t get to have any at all.

3388

It’s definitely an exercise in self entertainment. If I’m going to spend an hour or two of my time, I’d like to at least be entertained and not feel like I’m participating in a job interview.

3389

When I say reasonably attractive, I don’t judge what that means to everyone, just what it means to me, which is kind of average looking/imperfect but not, you know, tentacles for arms or having a jaw that can unhinge and swallow a pig whole.

And thanks for the OKC tip on hiding people. I don’t use the site much since it returns very few hits for me, so I’m not as up on the interface. Plus I really dislike the name I chose to use there.

Agree with jeff on opening date conversations. It can be a challenge to rise beyond the usual banalities. Sometimes that’s a sign the other person is probably not a good match and sometimes you just can’t get into the groove for whatever reason. It’s a bit like blowing an easy question at a job interview. “Wait, can I answer that one again?”

3390

Oh, so now I catch and eat pigs with my tentacle arms. Great.

3391

I thought those were examples of more attractive than average.

3392

Exactly. So I have three goals:

  1. Have something to do that’s fun. That way I’m covered on the 80% scenario (person isn’t interesting/fun/someone I ever want to see again).
  2. Minimize the banalities. That means wherever we are / whatever we’re doing has to provide conversation fodder.
  3. DO SEX ON HER LOLBOOBIES
3393

I had similar, although my experience was more that she looked much older than the pics she posted, not heavier.

Weird thing is, about two days before we were supposed to hang out, she posts all these new pictures of herself on FB as if to let it out early that she didn’t look anything like her gussied up dating photos.

Nothing happened with that one, other than a new possible herb connect.

3394

Hahaha, go on a date looking for love and find a drug dealer. That is funny.

3395

I never had anyone not look like her pictures, but it seems to me there’s nothing impolite about calling them on it, right away. It’s basically lying, the same as if they say they’re single and aren’t or guys who lie about their height. The onus is not on you to humour them. If they don’t want to deal with negative reactions at the start of a date, they should put up accurate pictures.

3396

I remember I had one woman tell me about an hour before I was going to pick her up that, “Oh, that picture is from college!” Really? Great. That’s information you could have considered sharing some time during the previous week. sigh Needless to say, her appearance had changed somewhat since then.

3397

Do it! If nothing else, OkCupid is entertaining.

And Warren, I have one picture up that is not representative of how I look now (I was much fatter in said picture). It is, however, a cherished memory and is labeled as such. I can’t imagine not having current pictures. How do people expect to get away with that?

3398

I don’t know where to find the profiles for ElG, Siren, or Ned :(

3399

ElG and I traded OkCupid screennames via PM. I haven’t seen Ned’s profile.

3400

I had a similar experience on New Year’s Eve. Was talking with this girl on OKCupid for several weeks, and she invited me to her NYE party. I was two beers into the night when I left for her place, at around 8pm. She was definitely less attractive than what her photos show. I’ve since made it my policy that no body shots = dateroulette. Few hours later I had probably 3 more beers (on an empty stomach) and a hit of pot, which really did me in. A few minutes later, she hands me a cup of some mixed drink, and tells me she put a roofie in it. Uhhh…

Whenever I’m completely stoned off my ass, my paranoia goes through the roof. Was she joking? Was she serious? Was she hiding her true intentions? Is she going to steal my kidneys? Obviously I didn’t want to find out, so I acted as best as a drunk/high person can that I was drinking from the cup and when they all went outside to take another hit from their pipe, I toss the cup in the sink and headed for the toilet. Puked my guts out, which actually improved my predicament! My drunken stupor and high were completely gone! Left her place about an hour later and never talked to her again. Yikes!