3401

It’s serious business.

I mean, compared to college… I’m fucking dying down here, man.

3402

And Warren, I have one picture up that is not representative of how I look now (I was much fatter in said picture). It is, however, a cherished memory and is labeled as such. I can’t imagine not having current pictures. How do people expect to get away with that?

I don’t know, honestly. I guess they figure their winning personality and charm will overcome that obstacle and … yes, it can sometimes. But when you start from a position of lying it sort of makes it more difficult.

3403

Lying, wow. That’s pretty serious business.

Look, this is just a matter of marketing. Do you think those delicious looking hamburgers in the ads are honestly representative of the slop-fests you get at the local greasy spoon? No, of course not, not even on a good day – it’s marketing.

It’s like the before and after shots for celebrities, Angelina Jolie isn’t lying to us when it turns out she’s a hideous troll without eye liner.

Another problem is that many women don’t think of these pictures as lies, they think of them as their best picture. Guys think of them as lies, girls think of them as beautiful. Many people have no perception of how particularly awful they look compared to a pic that is just a couple years older, and some might realize they’ve changed, a bit, but that the picture is still more or less accurate.

I just don’t think women take this stuff as seriously as guys, because, hey, they still have a vagina up for grabs.

3404

An enormous FUPA, up for grabs. Literally.

3405

Thank you urban dictionary. Without you I wouldn’t understand half of what these hipsters are talking about.

3406

I just don’t think women take this stuff as seriously as guys

Of course they do, that’s why there’s a misleading picture on their profile - they are very aware of how they look. To say that women don’t think about appearance as seriously as guys is a very odd statement to make.

3407

What’s the impression of eHarmony here? Now that I’m over my post-relationship sex monster phase, OKCupid and bars are looking a little less than attractive.

3408

Expensive scam. Purposefully limiting. Poor matches. Draws the matching and communication out as long as possible to necessitate continued monthly subscription fees. Avoidance recommended.[/Mordin]

3409

Guapo

Not to be a dick, but didn’t you just spend a few pages arguing with me (and others) about how easy it is to meet girls? :)

3410

Seriously. Are you lame-o’s going to post your profiles, or what? I’ll even go first.

beecubed

3411

You can be a dick. :)

It’s easy to meet girls. It’s not so easy to meet nice, family minded girls who want to settle down. At least in this town. They all say “family is very important to me”. But it never is.

3412

OK, fair enough, that makes sense. And that was probably the issue causing the divide the last time this was argued. Looking for sex as opposed to looking for a relationship.

3413

I agree with most of this. I feel like it is limiting. I’d rather they give percentages and let you choose at your own risk instead of only giving you top matches. I also agree that the communication is way drawn out. I did meet a good friend there and we managed to bypass that by sneaking our emails into the questions we answered (not sure if eharmony still has the question lists you send to people?).

I did feel the matches were good on paper. I’m fairly traditional, family-oriented, and prefer stereotypical gender roles. They totally nailed that. Being that I was a very liberal SF hipster kid at the time though (5-6 years ago, pre-Whitta), my matches didn’t meet up socially/culturally despite the moral/value matches. I got a lot of people 6+ hours away posing in their camo with their latest kill and there I was with my bad hipster hair and Danzig t-shirt. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just not me and I feel like they don’t take that sort of thing into account in their VERY VERY LONG questionaire.

3414

Heh I hit one of the typical frustration points in Internet Dating. The girl I was messaging with just up and stopped replying to me. We exchanged a dozen or so messages, were working on arranging a date and then bam - nothing.

It’s one of those things that’s annoying, but what can you do?

3415

I’ll go next! Me!

3416

I feel like if I click on these profiles, then people will know mine. Nice try!

3417

Siren’s is easy to find if you are monstrously clever. (Sorry, Siren — you’re the only qt3 girl on whom I could test my stalking skills.)

3418

You are very cute in your bald/facial hair phases. Keep to that!

3419

I grow my hair about once every six months for a month or two. Mainly it’s to remind me of why I shaved it in the first place. :D

3420

I did match.com for awhile and I was not really impressed. Everyone seems incredibly gun shy about actually sending emails and instead just do the wink thing. And the matches were just all over the fucking place. Most of the messages I got were from people demanding more pictures so I could ‘sell it.’ They got deleted :(