That Internet dating thing

Scrax · 2010-06-10T14:58:38.000Z

I’m sure it would be a rather interesting dicussion if QT3 were able to handle it, but I don’t think that it could. I’m sure he’s received a half dozen PM’s though from interested parties.

Creole_Ned · 2010-06-10T21:34:15.000Z

The date with the French guy who plays softball went much better than the one with the other guy in that he actually showed up. Hooray!

We hung out for about four hours and plan on getting together again on Saturday.

Pogo · 2010-06-10T22:02:32.000Z

divorced:

This is just so opposite of my universe. Do the two of you have rules that must be followed? Do you both have to be present? How would you feel if you came home and the tv repairguy had his tongue in her mouth, his hand on her tits and rod buried all the way in? Would you be okay with that? How do you think she would feel if she came home and you were doing that with another woman?

I’m not sure if you’re trying to sound insulting to his sexual lifestyle… but you sound like you’re insulting his sexual lifestyle.

To clarify, your insinuation is that swingers are ok with their spouses cheating on each other without their consent. Swinging is a consensual act between two parties, it doesn’t even necessarily mean an open relationship where spouses are encouraged to go find sexual gratification with whoever they want on their own.

Saying “would you be ok with that?” is one of those trolling tactics that Glenn Beck uses. Re-think your shit. Supersport has opened himself up a bit here, and I doubt he minds having the questions posed, but the way it’s posed here is, again, insulting.

Creole_Ned · 2010-06-10T22:05:55.000Z

I initially skimmed that post but reading it over again, a little judicious editing might be prudent.

Jason_McCullough · 2010-06-10T23:38:29.000Z

Holy crap, how did I miss this thread?

AndrewMyers · 2010-06-10T23:42:20.000Z

Jason McCullough:

Holy crap, how did I miss this thread?

You’ll want to read the previous 139 pages to bring yourself up to speed.

GloriousMess · 2010-06-11T06:03:36.000Z

I think I can summarise the thread from most participant’s point of view:

“Sigh.”

WarrenM · 2010-06-11T06:53:34.000Z

Pogo:

I’m not sure if you’re trying to sound insulting to his sexual lifestyle… but you sound like you’re insulting his sexual lifestyle.

To clarify, your insinuation is that swingers are ok with their spouses cheating on each other without their consent. Swinging is a consensual act between two parties, it doesn’t even necessarily mean an open relationship where spouses are encouraged to go find sexual gratification with whoever they want on their own.

Saying “would you be ok with that?” is one of those trolling tactics that Glenn Beck uses. Re-think your shit. Supersport has opened himself up a bit here, and I doubt he minds having the questions posed, but the way it’s posed here is, again, insulting.

Luckily, you’re here to feel insulted on his behalf. :)

Seriously, it just sounds like divorced is asking questions from the perspective of someone who just doesn’t “get it”. I don’t get it either (I don’t think I could handle watching another guy have a go with my wife) but I don’t have a problem with people who do. Nothing wrong with trying to gain new perspectives in life through asking questions.

Tortilla · 2010-06-11T06:56:12.000Z

WarrenM:

Seriously, it just sounds like divorced is asking questions from the perspective of someone who just doesn’t “get it”.

Not only doesn’t “get it” but is also somewhat judgmental towards those who don’t agree. I thought the tone of the questions was a tad insulting, but it probably was an unconscious thing which is why I didn’t make a big deal of it in my reply.

Zylon · 2010-06-11T08:35:50.000Z

Pogo:

I’m not sure if you’re trying to sound insulting to his sexual lifestyle… but you sound like you’re insulting his sexual lifestyle.

Relax, he’s just describing how he got his username.

BobJustBob · 2010-06-11T10:04:18.000Z

Pogo:

I’m not sure if you’re trying to sound insulting to his sexual lifestyle… but you sound like you’re insulting his sexual lifestyle.

To clarify, your insinuation is that swingers are ok with their spouses cheating on each other without their consent. Swinging is a consensual act between two parties, it doesn’t even necessarily mean an open relationship where spouses are encouraged to go find sexual gratification with whoever they want on their own.

Saying “would you be ok with that?” is one of those trolling tactics that Glenn Beck uses. Re-think your shit. Supersport has opened himself up a bit here, and I doubt he minds having the questions posed, but the way it’s posed here is, again, insulting.

Tobias: You know, Lindsay, as a therapist, I have advised a number of couples to explore an open relationship where the couple remains emotionally committed, but free to explore extra-marital encounters.

Lindsay: Well, did it work for those people?

Tobias: No, it never does. I mean, these people somehow delude themselves into thinking it might, but…but it might work for us.

Shadarr · 2010-06-11T11:08:53.000Z

WarrenM:

Seriously, it just sounds like divorced is asking questions from the perspective of someone who just doesn’t “get it”.

Remember that divorced is the guy who doesn’t want his girlfriend going out drinking with friends, and asked the board for advice about reading her email. He’s pretty much the other end of the spectrum from an open relationship.

WarrenM · 2010-06-11T11:42:29.000Z

True, I forgot about that stuff.

Pogo · 2010-06-11T13:31:43.000Z

Eh, there’s a way to objectively ask questions about something… and then there’s that other way. I dunno if I should call it naive trolling or just good old fashioned loaded questioning.

Matt_Bowyer · 2010-06-11T13:38:26.000Z

It’s a mindset I can’t wrap my brain around, so if Supersport wants to talk any more about it, I think a lot of us will listen. I have no interest in the lifestyle myself, but I really wonder how and why it works for the people that do live that way. It’s a very different mindset than I’m used to, and I don’t personally know anyone who lives that way, so I can’t ask them.

Pogo · 2010-06-11T13:46:07.000Z

Doesn’t seem that foreign of a concept to me, but then again I think watching a Discovery special on swingers several years ago helped a little.

JoshV · 2010-06-11T13:57:53.000Z

I remember ingesting some media somewhere (maybe it was Dr. Drew?) that stated that most couples that move towards an open relation tend to end in divorce/breakups. But then again, don’t most marriages these days end in divorce anyways? =) It’s not my thing, but more power to whoever wants to attempt it.

Should probably move the discussion to another thread anyways, as it’s an entirely different sort of dating =)

WarrenM · 2010-06-11T14:04:11.000Z

JoshV:

I remember ingesting some media somewhere (maybe it was Dr. Drew?) that stated that most couples that move towards an open relation tend to end in divorce/breakups.

The logic that I’ve picked up in this vein is that if you’re looking to mix it up with other people then logically you’re growing apart as a couple. This would tend to lead to breaks ups/divorce eventually.

I’m sure some people are just into it, however, and their relationship remains intact. I think they’re a fairly small minority however.

Tortilla · 2010-06-11T14:06:23.000Z

JoshV:

I remember ingesting some media somewhere (maybe it was Dr. Drew?) that stated that most couples that move towards an open relation tend to end in divorce/breakups. But then again, don’t most marriages these days end in divorce anyways? =) It’s not my thing, but more power to whoever wants to attempt it.

Should probably move the discussion to another thread anyways, as it’s an entirely different sort of dating =)

I would totally believe those stats. From what I’ve seen those who can do that type of relationship properly are rare.

divorced · 2010-06-11T14:28:06.000Z

Pogo:

I’m not sure if you’re trying to sound insulting to his sexual lifestyle… but you sound like you’re insulting his sexual lifestyle.

To clarify, your insinuation is that swingers are ok with their spouses cheating on each other without their consent. Swinging is a consensual act between two parties, it doesn’t even necessarily mean an open relationship where spouses are encouraged to go find sexual gratification with whoever they want on their own.

Saying “would you be ok with that?” is one of those trolling tactics that Glenn Beck uses. Re-think your shit. Supersport has opened himself up a bit here, and I doubt he minds having the questions posed, but the way it’s posed here is, again, insulting.

Dude, take a pill. I didn’t mean any insult in any way. next time I’ll be sure to run every question I ever want to ask someone by you to make sure you don’t think they might take it in a way that I didn’t intend.