First off, welcome to the neighborhood.
Second, my condolences. I’ve used OkCupid in a college town (San Marcos, which was also within range of Austin) and in Houston, and the results were…extremely different. I assume that you’re swinging a little lower than my age bracket (hooray for being thirty, that age when an awful lot of the tolerable people are already married to somebody else and not divorced yet), so maybe it’s better in the whole college age scene. I will warn you now that you’re going to find one hell of a lot of people living downtown, because that is apparently something normal people like to do. I don’t get it, but whatever.
Kael
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Congrats Creole Ned. It may be nice to date someone who pulls you out of your shell. My wife is the mingler who keeps me from locking myself in my house reading, watching movies and playing video games.
Whereas that is my wife’s idea of a perfect day.
Congrats, Ned! I hope it holds steady for as long as you want it to.
Way to go, Ned! Sounds like you had a great SUPER GAY time.
So I decided to log back into OKCupid, after getting the “You’re now in the top 50% of attractive users!” email that translates as “You’ve been randomly selected to PLEASE COME BACK AND GET US MORE AD REVENUE!” - but hey, I’m vain and easy to please.
Things of minor annoyance, still:
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When I set my filter to “Single”, stop showing me people classified as “Seeing Someone”. THAT IS THE OPPOSITE OF SINGLE.
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I wish they’d get rid of the “Available” category or at least offer a way to filter it out, since the only possible way I can figure people would select “Available” and not “Single” is if they’re in an open relationship, going through the process of a divorce/separation (except they HAVE “Divorced” and “Separated” options, I believe) - stop confusing me!
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Stop indicating body type as “Average” when you look like Kirby in a wig. At least say “Curvy” if you can’t admit to being overweight. Technically, a sphere is “curvy”…
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Note to self: Do NOT descend into the OKC Forums. There is only so much contempt one can actually generate before it starts becoming explosive.
I have absolutely no idea what that’s supposed to indicate. I’ve asked a couple of people who actually had their profile set to that what it was supposed to indicate and still haven’t gotten a straight answer. For a system as mechanical and code-driven as the OkCupid matcher, you’d think they’d want to eliminate a subjective label that any random idiot could interpret to mean whatever he wants it to mean.
EXACTLY! I saw one gal’s profile and thought “Hmm, okay, she’s cute, single, and hey, rated at 85% match, mark this one to email in the morning…”
Check in this morning: [name] has changed their status: “I’m Available now!”
Changed from “single” to “available”? What the what? My mind, it is as the French would say, le confused.
So I’ve been off the dating sites for a while but went on one yesterday. It was a funny date. First we went to brunch and had a great time, seemed to connect, etc. So during the conversation I find out she had never seen Blazing Saddles. So I invite her back to my place to watch it.
What followed was two hours of deadening silence from her side of the couch as she looked more and more uncomfortable every time someone said the N word. I mean I could just see the uncomfortableness build up like a steam gauge. She may have laughed like 3 times the whole movie, mostly at Madeline Khan’s scenes. When it was over I said “What’d you think?”, knowing of course, what her answer would be. She said it was super offensive, of course. I tried to explain a bit about the backstory, how Richard Pryor dropped out of filming, how Slim Pickens was super uncomfortable with some of his lines, how everyone who says the N word in the movie is a villian and asshole, how you have to take it in context and use of that word is the whole reason to laugh at the idiocy of the characters, etc. But it was like trying to defend the plot of Star Wars or something.
So it brings to mind a few questions.
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She was 26. Is this just a generational gap? Do younger audiences not like Blazing Saddles?
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Is one of what I consider one of the funniest movies of all time really some racist piece of dreck? Aside from the date coming to a complete standstill, the worst part of this is that it kind of ruined one of my favorite movies while I was watching it. I was to just brush it off and go “she doesn’t know what good humor is”, but now I am hesitant to even introduce someone to this great comedy, for fear it will get the same reaction.
I am twenty-eight and saw Blazing Saddles for the first time a year ago. I laughed until my sides hurt. I don’t think it’s generational.
I also think Blazing Saddles is one of the worst first date movies you can expose someone to. Figure out their sense of humor first.
I think it may be that you just can’t make movies like Blazing Saddles today, and seen unedited it tends to take a lot of people by surprise.
- Is one of what I consider one of the funniest movies of all time really some racist piece of dreck? .
Absolutely not.
Seriously, go with a more sensible movie choice like Your Friends and Neighbors for a first date movie.
26? She’s one year younger than me, so she has no excuse. Although I’m a Brit so I think I may not understand American sense of humours that well.
Blazing Saddles though, hmm. Perhaps not the best choice in the circumstances.
Kael
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Yeah, you can’t be thrown blind into Blazing Saddles. Some people (like me and others without souls) are amused by anything non-PC and will love the film right away. But others may need a few drinks to help them realize that its a satire.
I would suggest The Road or possibly Helvetica.
You guys are missing the entire point of, and reason for, the post:
She was 26.
The rest was filler.
This is SO true. I made my wife watch Blazing Saddles a few years ago–she’d never seen it. I would have known it was a bad idea if I’d actually thought about it for a few seconds. She’s a great woman, whip smart, and funny–but she completely lacks the ability to appreciate (or even discern) satire. It’s kind of like being color blind, but instead of being unable to distinguish between red and green, she’s humor blind and unable to distinguish between satire and serious.
As a result, she thought Blazing Saddles was racist! I had to explain at great length that no, in fact it represented a milestone in cinematic attitudes towards race, that it was pretty much the first ever black/white buddy movie, that the racists in the film are being brutally mocked, and so on.
She still didn’t like it.
Edit: and she’s not 26, she’s 43.
It’s not my fault you are sterile, Warren. You don’t have to take it out on my posts in this thread.
Unless you were the doctor who performed my vasectomy, no, it’s not your fault. Thanks for clearing that up though.
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Kael
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You’ve got to remember that these are just simple farmers. These are people of the land. The common clay of the new West. You know… morons.
And a mighty fine 26 it was, too! Well, actually, I didn’t meet her until she was 29, but judging from that, 26 had to be excellent.
