In all honesty, did you set the movie up Guapo or just let her walk in blind? It seems like if a movie is going to require a certain mindset to enjoy, it would be worth spending a minute or two explaining what you’re about to show.
Basically I judged her humor from the date to be that she would appreciate it. She liked Spaceballs, she liked Tommy Boy, we were making jokes about dogs dying and how dumb babies are, etc. That irreverent, sarcastic kind of humor that most people who share my sense of humor enjoy. In hindsight maybe that was a 3rd or 4th date movie, I should have stuck with Life of Brian or something.
Spaceballs and Tommy Boy are puerile, stupid humor. They’re in the Adam Sandler school of comedy.
Blazing Saddles is a Mel Brooks film, which is in the Larry David group of comedies; which is aware of social mores and the desire to transgress them for the sake of comedy. She probably hates Curb, for ex.
Editer
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Yeah, Richard Pryor actually cowrote Blazing Saddles. (He was replaced with Clevon Little after the film’s insurance company wouldn’t insure him.)
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Spaceballs is also a Mel Brooks movie, Enidigm. (Not that it’s not puerile and stupid.)
ARG. Is it really? I couldn’t tell… oh yea, he was in it. The merchandising guy.
He’s the Yoda knockoff, the leader of the Spaceballs, and maybe a couple other characters. Haven’t seen it in years.
I can kind of understand the basic reaction, because my mother (in her sixties…I think…shut up - birthdays aren’t big in my family, but she just started up Social Security this year) spent her youth in the Carolina backwoods with the hill people (I wouldn’t be shocked if I were related to Lothar…or possibly livestock) and she flinches around anything even remotely reminiscent of racism because of it, but in this day and age it seems a little anachronistic. Of course, I’ve spent so much time with contemporary hip-hop that that particular word barely registers with me any more, so I might not be in the best position to understand the norms on that point.
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Guapo, I’m 26 and saw Blazing Saddles for the first time a few months back. I thought it was hysterical.
Have you gone berserk? Can’t you see that man is a ni?
Thanks for the welcome! I’m only 22 so I imagine I’ve got it easier than those who are 30ish. I plan on going to school (commuting) near downtown so I don’t have a problem meeting people who actually live in the city. I did the whole urban living thing back in midtown Atlanta. It was fun and I can see the appeal, but I’m not sure I’d really want to do it again.
The next woman’s profile I see that lists “Chuck Pahlanuik” (sp?) as a favorite author and absolutely nothing else is going to force me into a spluttering rage. I had considered myself fairly well read, but I’d never heard of this asshole before I saw 9 out of 10 single women profiles have him listed to the exclusion of everyone else.*
On an actual online dating note, I’ve messaged a few more people (the total is now up to 25) I’ve had a third response so the numbers so far have been fairly consistent with the 10:1 Ratio. I feel like I’m starting to run out of women with really interesting profiles. I guess since it’s a numbers game, I’m going to have to open up my criteria a little bit to keep up the chances of meeting somebody.
*= significant exaggeration.
Seriously? Man, I would kill to find a well-read attractive woman who didn’t have a friggin’ Amazon wishlist of “Books I’m going to pretend I’ve read” and could actually hold a conversation about Palahniuk’s writing instead.
Protip: if your profile says you list One Hundred Years Of Solitude as one of your favorite books and you AREN’T a sixty year old lit professor, I’m liable to put you in the same category as people who say “I understood Primer the first time!” - that being the category of “filthy liars trying to sound pretentiously erudite”.
Fight Club. I’ve never felt the urge to go back to the source material and every time I’ve been inadvertently exposed to him he’s seemed like a gigantic hulking douche (sort of a cross between Dudebro, Ernest Hemingway, and Michel Foulcault). The most baffling thing to me is that he allegedly writes “masculine” fiction, which leads me to wonder why in the chuffing hell all these women are reading it. It just sort of blends into the background for me now.
You consider yourself “fairly well read” and have never heard of Chuck Pahalniuk?
Just FYI, he’s a popular author, not a feminist or anything nutty along those lines (though he writes some fairly unusual stories, as well as one called Fight Club that might ring a bell), etc. I’ve often seen David Sedaris listed more often than anyone else.
But yes, it’s pretty much a numbers game, and the hope that someone will actually reply. Writing interesting, non-rambling messages that address what people mention in their profile specifically (but don’t address everything) helps.
— Alan
It means she’s in some sort of non-exclusive/non-committed relationship. Maybe she started casually seeing some guy but they’re not boyfriend/girlfriend yet, or maybe she has a committed, open relationship.
On OKC’s data/matching code: designed by a rogue AI is my best guess, a rogue AI that wants nothing more than to amuse itself at the expense of the humans it “serves”. If it can communicate instantly across this vast planet of ours, surely 400 or so miles isn’t any big thing to us carbon units, even if our criteria specifically states “must be within 25 miles”.
On bad first date movies: I was the 26 year old (er) last summer when a date insisted we watch another Mel Brooks’ movie – History of the World, Part I. Now, I knew it was probably going to be mediocre at best (I think I recount the date somewhere in this thread about 3,000 posts back) but I found it aggressively unfunny while the other guy thought it hilarious. We never saw each other again. He may be watching it right now, for all I know.
Thanks for the well-wishes regarding my current misadventures. My arms and legs look not unlike boiled lobster today. Something I find very appealing about this guy is his openness. He pretty much lets it all hang out. I’ve dated others who never seemed to let their guard down and the difference is striking.
Also, I read the change from “Single” to “Available” the first way Aaron suggests: she was probably casually dating someone and that has since ended. Or maybe it hasn’t ended but the date has been moved one peg lower on the relationship bar. Or maybe she’s decided she wants to start an open relationship and may or may not be dating anyone at the moment. Or she clicked the wrong status in the dropdown menu. Yes, OKC is great, I agree!
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The body type category is weird, Average for the most part means Fat, unless they’re asian, in which case they aren’t skinny and might actually be cute. Curvy can mean obese, or it can mean she has really great T and A. It’s usually the former, but sometimes its the latter, so if you’re brave, do a search on that category.
So glad to be done with dating =)
Oh don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against Pahalniuk or his writing. After some google searches, I now know more about who he is and what he’s written. I had heard of some of his books before (never read them admittedly), I just never remembered his name and made the connection. I found it weird and sort of irritating that a seemingly abnormally large percentage of profiles list him as the only favorite author. I mean if he’s all you’ve read that’s fine, but after you see it in 20 different profiles you start wondering just how full of shit these people are. If you don’t read (m)any books then why not just skip that part of the profile? I don’t claim to be a rational person or even make one lick of sense. I’m just relaying my initial online dating impressions because I’m honestly bored…
I’ve been experimenting with messages. Messing around with different length messages and being serious vs. being funny (or trying to). I don’t see the point in doing form letters or generic “Hi, how are you?” messages so I try to add at least a little personal flair to each message. So far my responses have come from medium length (above 500 characters less than 800 or so) that mention 1 or 2 things in the recipients profile and try to inject a little humor.
Which essentially means I haven’t discovered anything new! In other news OKC quiver matches are bullshit!
Fuck, it’s like Schrodinger’s Singles’ Night - where you have no idea what the damn cat’s relationship status is until you open the box. So technically someone marked as “Available” can be Single and yet In A Relationship at the same time.
Right. Kind of like a good friend of mine, who has a casual on-and-off with one of his best friends; he’s not technically single when he doesn’t have a girlfriend, he’s available, looking, but not alone.
