nixon66
4261
Seriously. I see Pahlanuik listed almost as many times as the Twilight series for females. It’s almost as if it’s their “edgy” or “quirky” book pick. Maybe 10 years ago we would have seen Tom Robbins listed endlessly as the quirky book of choice. I remember in college knowing at least 4 or 5 girls who were in love with Robbins writing.
Now in Twilight, there’s an easy way to filter people when it’s listed as the favorite books of anyone over the age of 13.
Shadarr
4262
You pretty much just have to look at photos, because some women use the strict definition and some women use the euphemistic, aspirational definition. It’s as much a measure of body image and self esteem as anything else. But apparently, a lot of guys lie about their height–as a result of the huge number of women who refuse to date anyone under 5’10", even when they themselves are under 5’4". And round and round it goes. I am so glad to be out.
The picture tells all. If all you see is a head shot or a shot of their eyes … fat.
That picture just tells you that she’s batshit insane.
Zylon
4266
On the contrary, Blazing Saddles is one of the best possible ways to rapidly discern someone’s sense of humor. It’s also a good way to tell if they’re capable of metacognition. Absence of Blazing Saddles appreciation is of course a deal-breaker.
Is The Road a good first date movie?
Do you plan to continue the relationship post-apocalyptically? If so, yes.
If she laughs, you know you’ve got yourself a keeper.
Actually yeah, I would say that an arty shot that doesn’t really show you what they look like means drama(!), not fat. Women (and presumably men) who are on there earnestly looking for a date will put up photos that show what they look like–presumably ones that show what they look like at their best, but still basically using the photos for their intended purpose.
Women who post sillhouetes and ultra-close-ups and drawings and weirdly distorted pictures are probably either just on the site for attention, or else as you say, batshit insane. I got into an odd discussion with one woman who messaged me to say that it’s too bad I was only looking for a long term relationship, because she was only looking for long term casual sex and would totally do me. I pointed out that her main photo, which was of her dressed up as a zombie, was pretty much her least attractive, because unlike vampires there is really nothing sexy about a rotting shambling corpse that wants to eat your brain, and probably interferes with her stated goal of finding men to have sex with. She then went on a long rambling tirade about how she’s not just looking for someone to jump into bed with and if they are that shallow she wouldn’t date them anyway and at that point I think I stopped replying.
Siren
4271
I realized this after classifying myself as curvy and not having any pictures that were of anything more than my face. I started getting a lot more views and messages from guys when I posted a couple of shots that are a little further away, and are from the knees up. They show that I am, indeed, curvy, but not (as some women are using now) Rubenesque.
I’d just point out that marking “Average” for body type when you are fat isn’t really a lie in America, where fat is indeed the average body type.
Pretty much everywhere, it’s gonna be fat.
Better Reubenesque than Reubensesque:
Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Except maybe white socks with white tassel loafers.
Well, that would imply that she thought The Road was so bad that it was laughable - which would mean no second date.
Valid point, but I have to agree with the initial poster that this is probably not the best idea for a first date. Especially if you haven’t been messaging each other for at least several weeks beforehand and gotten an idea of the other’s sense of humor. If your unsuspecting date doesn’t know anything about Blazing Saddles, you may have just lost yourself several kajillion points.
Having said that…I met my GM on here through an online dating site. So caution’s probably not always the rule. -grin-
Shush, you. grins
Yeah, it’s funny, I’ve had a lot of success on OkCupid, though it really is a case of “Feast or Famine”. I generally go a few weeks without getting any replies or messages, then have a half-dozen in a week.
Not that I spend much time on OkCupid anymore. I just check my Quiver and Icebreaker matches, generally even then only Winking at people rather than messaging them. Meeting people leads to continuing to meet people, which leads to less free time!
Hey, I didn’t think you were actually going to be reading that. You hush.
By the way, only Winking at people = not a great idea if you’re actually trying to strike up a conversation. A Wink means ‘I have nothing more to say, other than that you’re cute/you can write/you take interesting photos [pick one].’ Which, if you’re Aaron, may well be what you’re trying to accomplish…but still, as a rule, put in a little more effort than that. :)
