I sort of agree. There are worse dates though - like a movie. Sit in a darkened room next to each and don’t talk for 2 hours. That’s good datin’!
ABailey
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I disagree! There’s the time before the movie, and the commercials, and the previews for talking. Perhaps the occasional comment during the movie. And then there’s a whole bunch of stuff to talk about after the movie… like the movie you both just watched. Which movie your date wants to see is also somewhat telling. Is he or she willing to compromise? Do you have movie viewing habits in common? And if neither of you like any of the movies playing, skip to a meal or coffee or something.
Zylon
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Making fun of a terrible movie can make for a great date experience.
Pogo
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Most of those reasons are a great way to spend a 2nd or 3rd date after you’ve gotten a feel for your date’s personality. Every other reason depends on the movie, which is something that quite possibly neither of you expected for better or worse.
No, it’s a terrible 1st date.
Marcus
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I agree movies are horrible horrible first dates. Dinner sure but a movie? Na you need to be able to interact with this person.
I stand by my decision for going to the mall. I agree that for a normal date it’s not necessarily a great idea, but since we first met online and not in real life like most couples (this is the internet dating thread), we both agreed that a big public place was probably the best approach for an initial meeting just so she can make sure I’m not an axe murderer and I can be (reasonably) certain she isn’t a psychotic bitch. In my situation, the mall also has many different bars/restaurants nearby along with a movie theater and a park with plenty of walking paths so escaping to a more traditional dating spot isn’t that hard. So really I see it as the best of both worlds for meeting a woman in person for the very first time. You get the security of a big public place that has lots of things to see and/or do if you’re into that and it is just minutes away by foot from many more secluded romantic spots both indoors and outdoors if that’s your preference. As an added bonus this particular mall was also a good geographic midpoint between our homes.
Pogo
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Aye, it’s a great place to make them feel safe and secure before employing the ‘sleeping rag’ technique in the parking lot.
I just meet people from the internet in cafes or restaurants and eat food or have tea.
Pogo
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Well, cafes require the Numb Numb Candy in the Drink method. I salute you for taking that route, it requires a lot of skill and planning.
Aye, it’s a great place to make them feel safe and secure before employing the ‘sleeping rag’ technique in the parking lot.
Oh yeah, it’s perfect for the tried and true Plan B: Operation Ether.
ABailey
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I like to call it ‘Adventure Candy’.
Zylon
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This is why it always confuses the hell out of me that anyone would ever want to sit at the bar on a first date (or any date, given the choice). It’s distracting, noisy, and you can’t even sit facing the person you’re with.
Pogo
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I don’t think bars are good either, like you said because of the noise. Not everyone likes drinking, either.
Restaurant, walking in a park that’s close to some finger food stands, hiking up some cliffs, maybe a bike ride or walking of pets, going to a museum of some sort (wacky or serious), things like that. Do an activity that facilitates seeing things and talking about them, sharing an experience, things like that.
Having been on a billion dates in the past year, I can state my own preferences for a first date location/activity.
A cafe/coffee shop followed by a walk at a nearby park is good. You get a chance to sit and chat for a bit and barring disaster, going for a walk afterward allows you to extend that and get a better feel for each other and maybe relax a bit more without the constant face to face. On the flipside, it can also make you miss the face to face, which might be a good thing.
A more formal restaurant is good because you can chat while waiting for the food and the meal gives a bit of natural breathing space as you chat and dine.
A mall seems kind of weird, unless you’re meeting a a cafe or something in the mall, but I suppose it’s not an awful idea or anything (unless you plan on doing actual shopping on the date, which would be weird).
Cycling I wouldn’t do because it’s too difficult to actually converse while riding. This goes for a lot of physical activities for first dates.
A museum/gallery is good. Both are just variations on going for a walk and the location automatically gives you a topic for conversation.
Bars or clubs are usually too noisy to hold a regular conversation. I did meet one date last year at a pub (his idea). We had one drink then left so we could actually talk to each other without shouting.
Movies are good for dates but I concur with others that they aren’t good for a first date because too much time is spent not interacting with the other person.
Movie’s good for grabbin’ on her titties, yo
No, movies are gay.
Although I did get accused of going for the boob when I legitimately stretched out on the couch like that. It was a real stretch, honest.
I’ve found Barnes & Noble to be a fairly good place for a first date. I’m pretty sure they all now have a cafe inside, and once you chat for a bit, you can wander around looking at books, as well as music and movies. How they react to the large display of Ann Coulter’s newest book can tell you a lot about a person…
If the date’s going really well, you can pick out a movie to watch (either that night or on the next date, depending on how speedy you want to be with the relationship).
But, I"m clearly no expert. The last girl I had feelings for dumped me through a one sentence email, with absolutely no explanation.
Maybe she hates Barnes & Noble and never got over the first date there.
Was she bigger than the cardboard cutout of Coulter?
