We’re meeting on Friday.
(Kidding.)
I said we were apparently looking for different things. I’m paranoid now that completely innocent-sounding words or phrases in profiles have morphed over time to become code for “I want sex”, sort of like how “overweight” became “average”.
Ah ok. Don’t become to paranoid though ;)
So is “peanut butter jelly time” code for anonymous gay sex?
According to Malcolm Ingram, you might be overthinking it. I can’t imagine that he’d be characterized as magnificently attractive and he said that any time he has access to Craigslist he’s no more than ten minutes away from a blow job. I don’t think that anonymous gay sex bothers to hide itself behind an impossibly dense layer of obfuscation.
I think Supersport should make his own thread, but it should be a forum game thread. Instead of vampires, it should be people with herpes.
ABailey
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I like this thread better when it’s about things I can relate to, like trying to date via internet sites, and less when it’s about stuff I can’t relate to, liking swinging/polyamory/whatever. I have a hard enough time finding one person I like. I wouldn’t be sad if the swinging/poly stuff went over to its very own thread, but I’m not the thread police.
salwon
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Lots of coded language in there. What’s your take on Milwaukee Airports?
Wow. The petty ignorance of some folks here is absolutely galling. Apparently if someone’s having sex with multiple partners, in or out of a relationship, it’s an automatic assumption that they’re “a walking STD”?
Hello, 1930 called, and they want their presumptuous self-righteousness back.
Awww, c’mon Ned. That little guy just screams “GOOD TIMES!”. ;-)
Aaron. I don’t give out relationship advice often, but I feel compelled to comment here that what you’re saying is a clear warning sign that this girl is not right for you. Take it from a guy who has spent 16 years fighting this battle with an otherwise mostly wonderful woman. Having her think of some of your favorite things as childish and immature is going to put a strain on the relationship that you’re better off without. Find someone who accepts you for who you are. They can still be irritated and annoyed by your little quirks and whatnot, but finding fault with a major part of what makes you who you are is never a good thing.
I agree, Slainte. Which is why the conversation is inevitable… and I see no reason to put it off till “later”.
JoshV
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You know there is an ignore button right? Just ignore him and move on with your life if it’s that big a deal to you.
Kalle
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But then how will he take part in mmalloys forum game (by a girl)?
I’ll take her off your hands. Got pics?
Just kidding. Good luck man!
You have it backwards, man. Those are the things she has no interest in, and therefore doing them together bores her. :)
Editer
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You know what I don’t like in an Internet dating thread? People complaining about people posting about stuff that doesn’t fit their particular dating situation, which is even farther off-topic. Learn to use the Ignore button, it’s super-easy.
I’m not gay, but I’m happily cheering on Ned in his quest for Mr. Right.
I’m not in the “lifestyle,” but I find it interesting to read Supersport’s posts. It’s not a lifestyle choice I’d make myself or even recommend, but darn if it’s not interesting to read about experiences of folks who make different choices in life.
I was very far from a hot-tub wielding Casanova in my single years, but El Guapo’s exploits were like a good Showtime dramedy. Until you frackers got all self-rightous and cancelled his show.
I’m not even dating. But I enjoy reading about the trials and successes of others, though perhaps that’s because it makes me appreciate being married even more. :)
And some of the posts that are actually on-topic I’m not interested in. But I don’t point that out to the posters.
This is Quarter to Three. There aren’t topic police, and tangents are a core aspect of this forum. And for some reason, people only seem to bitch about straying off-topic anywhere on this forum when people have a dating morality that differs from their own.
Oh, gotcha. You can keep her then. :P
ElGuapo
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That’s a good idea, WarrenM and mmalloy. Just put me on ignore, instead of the self righteous bullshit, mmkay?
And stop putting words in my mouth like “whore”, mmalloy. Have I ever called anyone that? Have you ever seen me use that word? Or describe someone like that? Just because you feel like disrespecting women doesn’t mean I do. Just because some people enjoy sex doesn’t mean they are using anyone, or anyone is being used. So get out of the Victorian Age, ok? Sometimes sex is about intimacy and love, sometimes about expression, sometimes about passion or lust, sometimes fun, and sometimes companionship is companionship. I’ve never attacked your personal relationships and I never plan to.
You guys are making me think it’s possible to start dating online again. Or hell, using the internet to find people to go out on dates with.
The trick for me is to go into it playfully and without much investment. It’s hard for me not to get all wrapped up in The Pursuit of a Girlfriend ™ and treat it like it’s super important. Because it’s not. It’s nice to have a companion and buddy that’s fun to kiss, but whenever I start needing validation from another person it gets real serious and unpleasant real fast.
And because the internet makes it possible to participate in the activity of finding dates without actually going on them, it’s real easy for all my dating anxieties to come up and hang around, sitting on my head, emotionally speaking. Whenever I go out with someone I find it fairly easy to be present and have a good time. I don’t have many anxieties about hanging out with cute girls. It’s the getting there part that brings up anxieties.
And finally, it’s all just about anxieties. I was going to write that getting to the point of going out with someone is ‘hard’, but it’s not at all. What’s difficult is working through the anxieties that come up whenever I think about chatting girls up, trying to seem attractive, or engaging in the world I think I ought to be in order to attract girls. That’s what give me the problem. Not that dating or finding dates is hard, but that I’m going about it all wrong. Not being myself and just being honest and putting myself out there.
As Dan Savage always says, you gotta put yourself out there.
/livejournal
Man, if she doesn’t appreciate that stuff, then yeah, you should part ways, and you should be damned sure you put that stuff in your online profile so that you’re attracting the right kinds of women - the ones who don’t think that doing things you think are fun, and enjoying the wonder of life, are signs of immaturity.
Any reason you couldn’t still be cooking buddies?
