Fine. This is what I get for posting in this thread. You guys can all go fuck yourselves.
It’s entirely possible it’s a money thing. I don’t know why I didn’t consider that angle until now seeing as how I’m a half-broke college student myself. Hell, I lucked out on my car by being able to buy it dirt cheap from a family member and the cost of insurance and gasoline are indeed very expensive. I’d be lucky to have my own car if any of those costs were much higher.
To answer Mark Asher’s question: no none of those things are necessarily deal breakers.
I’m not even really sure why I bothered posting about it in hindsight. It’s not exactly a huge mystery and I doubt many people find it interesting. I blame it on lack of sleep and a slight affinity for post count padding. I last talked to this girl on Sunday (two days ago) and I’ll probably call her again tomorrow evening or Thursday to see if she’s still interested and if her story has changed. Obviously if this ends in a horror story (that’s interesting) I’ll write a full report in this thread.
Why don’t you just ask her why she doesn’t have a license? It is a harmless question if there is nothing bad behind it.
You met a girl on an internet dating site and went on a date? That sounds precisely on topic to me. You’re good. :)
JoshV
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It could also be a medical thing, suffers from seizures, eyesight issues, etc.
Leah_C
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Or maybe she just doesn’t like driving. I got my license a couple of weeks before I turned 20 only because my friends made a bet that I wouldn’t. I used it a total of 3x and haven’t driven since. I lived in a rural area at the time and walked/biked everywhere.
Well, my talk with K ended without me being gutted by a carving knife, so I count that as a big plus.
No, seriously, it went fine, we both basically feel the same way about our (lack of) long-term compatibility.
Also, we parted on good terms and I’ll probably continue going to game night at her place (Bohnanza for me to lose at, Set for me to crush their souls at) if only for the utterly fantastic food she cooks!
And so now, it’s time to update the ol’ OkCupid profile and start looking again.
ElGuapo
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To keep it on topic, I’m making a girl dinner at my place tonight that I met on OKCupid. It’s our second date, the first one was fun, tapas and listening to a bluegrass band.
She’s vegetarian though. Meatshield flashbacks, meatshield flashbacks!
That’s quite possibly one of the best stories to come out of all these anecdotes about meeting people online.
Me, personally, I think I’ve hit another trough of misanthropy - it’s becoming quite obvious that the KC area is a dry riverbed for feasibly finding dating potential through the usual sites.
PlentyOfFish has been ten kinds of useless - literally everyone it’s popped up for both the wide-focus and the “people I actually want to date” searches tend to fit a particular demographic (that being the kind more suited to a brush with fame on COPS) that I’ve no interest in even sharing a sidewalk with, much less dating.
OKCupid tends to have a much better quality of humanity utilizing it, but there’s always something, it seems, getting in the way. It seems like 90% of the eligible pool is made up of single mothers whose “kids are their entire world”. To quote the vicar, “Fuck off, grasshopper!”
Thank god at least SOME people are finding better luck through the interwebs dating services (good on ya, BillD!) because apparently I’ve found myself in the dating equivalent of the Hellmouth.
F dating sites.
Consider joining a sports league. Tons of single women that you already have a pretense to approach and converse with (hey, so how was YOUR game).
If I were single, I’d totally have made overtures to many of the women in my flag football and kickball leagues. Lots of nice looking boys and girls to just make friends with. Other stuff can happen from there. Someone might have a nice roommate, you never know.
Link to kansas city kickball league:
http://www.kickball.com/season/mokansascityfall2010
Yeah, I missed the cutoff for the last season, been meaning to look into this since it was mentioned back in (I think) the First Date Smoochin’/Supertasters Anonymous thread.
I just want to point out that Kong here was in Dallas yesterday and paid a visit to my kickball league and the scene at the bar afterward. I think he’ll testify that the phrase “target rich environment” is appropriate, and that everything I said about kickball earlier in this thread is 100% true.
Seriously, guys. Kickball. You must try it.
Kickball, huh. muses I wonder if there’s a Baltimore kickball league, and if so, how incredibly out of place I’d be showing up there. ;)
As long as they don’t have a “must be this high to play” sign…
I was more thinking about the ethnic demographics of the city than anything else.
ElGuapo
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Aaron, file “Playing in kickball leagues” under “Stuff White People Like”.
Baltimore’s what, 40% white, 40% black, 10% hispanic, 10% softshell crab? I’m sure… vaguely-Jewish is out of the ordinary enough to be noticeable. That can be a plus!
If there is a league, there is probably a web site. If there is a web site, it probably has pictures of current teams.
As far as I understand, not even close; it’s majority black, then Hispanic, then crabs, drug dealers, Asians, and whites in that order. That’s for the city itself, of course; not the suburbs.
Note: I could be completely wrong.
