Not being 6 ft tall is now a massive fault? Or do you just mean the general lying?
I think the first picture is better as the main one, btw. But wasn’t there something about smiling being bad in one of those breakdowns?
Shadarr
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I could tell you that. Hell, I have told you that.
I remember hearing that a lot of women are looking for a man who is at least 5’10" (regardless of their own height), so lots of men bump themselves up to that level to avoid being filtered out. It probably does work out (for the guys) because a five foot nothing woman is not going to even know that a guy is only 5’8" and not 5’10" like she set her stupid arbitrary search parameters to.
Shadarr
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The second one is a better picture, not sure whether it would work as a main icon though. The first one is kind of flat. Maybe you could warm it up a little and up the contrast?
Leah_C
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The bi thing is silly. When I was doing online dating, I rarely listed my interest in women. That wasn’t because I wasn’t interested; it was because it is ridiculously easy to meet women in San Francisco. Had I listed myself as bi, I probably still would’ve only messaged/responded to men. It has nothing to do with how gay or straight I am, just personal preference. I prefer talking to women face to face and having an opportunity to get to know men before meeting. I don’t think you can accurately make assumptions on someones sexual orientation based on messaging habits.
Leah_C
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I like the first better. They’re both good pictures though.
Shadarr
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The bi thing is annoying. Lots of women seem to use it as an identity label. Then at the bottom of their profile they say that they’re only on the site to meet women (sorry guys, winky smilie). If you’re not looking to date both genders, don’t choose that option. It’s not that fucking hard to understand.
The general lying.
It is your pleasure to jest, sir. No.
Worth taking a shot at. Thanks for the advice.
See, I take the opposite approach there. Someone might be attracted to both men and women - thus self-identifying as bisexual - but only want a committed relationship with one or the other. That’s perfectly normal - lord knows there’s quite a few women I’m attracted to that I wouldn’t date under anything less than post-apocalyptic circumstances.
If they’re not interested in meeting guys, they shouldn’t identify as bi on the site. If they’re interested in casual sex with guys and relationships with women, they can indicate that in their profile, instead.
Leah_C
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I agree with Aaron, unless there is an option for listing orientation as well as what gender you’re looking for. If you know you’re only looking for one thing, there’s no point in advertising for both.
On OKC, there is. It’s right at the bottom of everyone’s profile, “Looking For”.
OKC’s main flaw is their inability to filter by that - for example, if some gal’s only looking for 6’0"+ men in their twenties, it does absolutely no good to show me her profile.
Exactly. And furthermore if they’re only looking to date one gender right now, that’s what they should pick. It’s not like it’s set in stone.
There’s an option to only show straight women, and I sometimes turned it on, but the thing about online dating (or dating generally) is that you have to cast a wide net. Filtering out the bisexuals will show you a lot fewer polyamorous drama queens with issues, but you’ll also miss out on a couple potential dates. Just like the majority of single moms have huge red flags all over their profiles, but if you filter out anyone with kids you’ll also miss the ones who are normal, datable women.
The straight/bi/homosexual question isn’t asking people for their self-identification; it’s asking who they want to date. When a person puts answers “bi” when they’re only looking to date same sex, they’re just wasting everybody’s time.
Basically, the person didn’t understand what the question was asking for. Which is useful information about them, I guess.
Really? Huh. I’ve actually gotten people saying they liked it. But I guess people who didn’t like it would be more likely than not to just not message me at all…
#3 has too much going on that isn’t you, it’s distracting and chaotic. #1 is the best picture because it looks more natural and candid, #2 looks like you’re trying too hard.
The question now becomes that if everyone lies about their height does that mean others expect that lie and people pretty much have to add two inches else others assume they’re even shorter than they actually are? Won’t that lead to height inflation?
