#3 isnt a picture of you. it’s a nice picture of your brother and the top of your head.
Wish you’d been around when i was visiting Palo Alto a couple years back. I’d have made a nice Polaroid portrait for you.
DrCrypt
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I’d ditch #1: it makes you look smug, a little pervy and maybe like you smell like peanut butter. Girls don’t want to date guys who look like that kid who sat at the back of their third grade class eating warts off his hands while intensely flipping through a moist “She-Ra: Princess of Power” sticker book.
#2’s a very nice picture, and makes you look very handsome, but I think you could get the same effect while maximizing your potential “geek girl” response by replacing it with a picture of John Romero and His Hair.
Speaking of pictures, my latest batch was a bunch o’ duds. Another attempt is likely next week (and yeah, I’m working on trying to get more activity/spontaneous photos, too).
Quick question: I chatted a bit with someone on OKC back in late March and nothing came of it (the messages were pleasant enough but never went anywhere). He checked out my profile again four days ago, which is after I had updated my main pic. Is he interested or did he just see the new pic and click before he realized it was me? The reason I ask is I’ve done the same thing myself. People are so visually-oriented on dating sites that you often click the pic first, then look at the name, then maybe actually read the profile. More than once I’ve found myself saying, “Oh, it’s that guy.”
i’d be tempted to put a shorter height so that it filters those fucking shallow idiots out.
According to OKC we’ll all end up dating poor gay midgets, anyway.
kerzain
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Midget is an offensive term. You should learn to be more sensitive to people different from yourself.
According to OKC we’ll all end up dating poverty-enabled same sex-oriented people of smaller stature, anyway.
EDIT: Bluh, that was my 4,000th post. I’ll toss in on Aaron’s photos that I like both #1 and #2 and I think he has them in the right order now, as #2 seems a little more staged. #3 is too atypical (a wedding reception, I’m guessing) and busy to make for a great profile photo, though it isn’t posed, so it’s good for variety.
Aaron, you’re cute! No wonder the ladies like your black pepper chicken. Or whatever you kept cooking them back in Israel. Go with the first picture as a lead, but the first two are both great.
Otherwise, I think there’s a bit too much concern for ‘presenting’ them. They’re both good pictures. Throw 'em up there and go back to designing a board game or reading good books or frolicking in the grass or whatever.
Yeah, f it, I’m just going to leave all three of them up.
Oh, and I had a fantastic date last night. C. and I met up at a bookstore cafe to chat for a while, and then decided to take our conversation elsewhere.
We parted this morning with every intention of spending more time together before she leaves for North Carolina in three weeks.
This whole “being single and dating people” thing is very new to me, so I’m happy it’s working out. Aside from a handful of weeks between J. and K., I’ve been in a committed, monogamous relationship for almost the past three years, which is quite some time for a young’un like me. :)
This is a first. A guy who initially expressed interest in meeting later wrote to say he was ‘intimidated’ by me after I mentioned getting back from a 10K run because I’m ‘super healthy’ and he feels he’s out of shape and the opposite (despite his pics looking just fine – he classifies himself as ‘slim’).
People are weird.
Surprise date!
After contacting someone on PoF and exchanging a few messages over the past week, the contactee surprised me by asking today to meet for coffee tonight. I agreed and we hung out for a few hours, chatting and strolling about downtown. We learned we both enjoy horror movies and have the same all-time favorite (The Exorcist). He seems pleasantly funny and intelligent. The evening ended with him asking to meet for coffee again, to which I agreed.
After weeks of dealing with flakes (like in the post above) it was refreshing to have someone just plain want to meet and actually follow through.
The more I go through OKC, the more I’m convinced to just throw in the towel and adopt a life of celibacy, when the other option is “settling” - which I’m realizing would be the case with literally every person who seems even remotely attractive and interesting on the site, there’s always ONE glaring issue that can’t be overlooked.
#1 - attractive, check. Can communicate effectively and doesn’t type like a six year old that’s been eating paint chips, check. Okay, get ready to send email… wait… ah shit, Jesus Freak. To the bin with you!
#2 - attractive, check. Smart, check. Jesus Freak? No! All right, potential… ah shit, smoker. TO THE BIN!
#3 - Smart, check. High compatibility and shared interests, check! Non-smoker, no kids, looking good. Where was that photo again OH MY GOD WHAT IS THAT THING AND WHO LET IT OUT IN PUBLIC? Delete delete delete delete…
#4 - Attractive… okay, we’ll drop standards a bit for a 93%+ compatibility, seems slightly well-spoken except for ROCK CHALK JAYHAWK - fuck off, you’re in the bin.
So yeah, it looks like the online dating option is being shelved, at least until I can look at ONE profile that doesn’t immediately make me wish for some kind of mandatory eugenics program.
The Exorcist? Bah! Rosemary’s Baby is where it’s at.
You deserve to be alone.
You deserve to die alone.
You say this as if it’s news.
Mightynute -
Amusingly enough, I had a date this past Friday with a girl whose profile picture was very unflattering. Totally unattractive picture. But after having a lively discussion of the potential uses of man-portable terahertz spectrometers, I decided, you know what, the worst case scenario is a fun date with a new geeky friend.
She turned up in an incredibly sexy red dress, looking fantastic. Had an amazing date. Meeting her again on Friday, too… such a pity that she’s only in town for a few more weeks before she goes back to North Carolina!
Go out and go on dates, dude. Every person you message doesn’t have to be your potential One True Love. And you never know… her friend might be.
I think I’m going to try the kickball route - if nothing else, it’ll give me an excuse to go get some social-themed exercise. Plus, meeting new people with at least one common interest - since none exist on OKC - is always a plus.
My experience suggests a lot of people out there are waiting for or seeking the perfect match. This will never happen.
That guy last night whose favorite horror movie is the same as mine? He also admits to liking The Lady in the Water. Sometimes you need to bend a little on the ol’ perfect match thing.
