That Internet dating thing

ElGuapo · 2010-07-19T13:12:18.000Z

No! You must like to play with Star Wars Legos in your underpants or it’s a dealbreaker!

Raife · 2010-07-19T13:14:30.000Z

Wait, there are people out there who don’t play with Star Wars Legos in their underpants?

Andrew · 2010-07-19T13:17:13.000Z

Sounds uncomfortable.

Mightynute · 2010-07-19T13:17:53.000Z

Raife:

Wait, there are people out there who don’t play with Star Wars Legos in their underpants?

“That’s no moon…”

XPav · 2010-07-19T14:08:13.000Z

Legopants?

Claycw · 2010-07-19T14:09:10.000Z

Mightynute:

“That’s no moon…”

Ok that made me laugh.

Supersport · 2010-07-26T11:04:48.000Z

Supersport:

So in the last ten days, it has been super crazy…

We sorta had sex with that one couple. His wife and I got right down to business but he couldn’t get it up and running. The wife and I both thought that we were getting an experienced couple but from what Jen told me, he got really intimidated by her. I would look over and I thought everything was fine, but it wasn’t. He kept on telling her he was nervous because he had never been with such a beautiful woman. Afterwards, the wife and I had a long talk about how to handle those situations and learned a lot from that night. The guy sent us an apology email the next day and we were respectful in our reply email. I don’t think we will ever do anything with them again (even though his wife really wants too) but they are cool people and probably just go out to dinner or lunch with them in the future.

Then we met another couple our age and they were cool as shit. In fact, him and I are fast becoming friends and got a feeling that this will be exactly what we are looking for. We haven’t done anything with that couple but the anticipation is there. Texts between his wife and I are progressing from chit chat to innuendos and flirting. He and I talk about normal guy stuff. My wife and him flirt around a bit. We went out to lunch with them and they were fascinated with how we came into the lifestyle even though they been around a bit. They even got us txting joke photos back and forth. Just a ton of fun. Just to throw this out there, he is white and she is filipino.

We went on another date with a couple that said they were 39 and 34. That could be farther from the truth. More like 59 and 44. The female was cute (chinese/filipino) but he was all old. The funny thing was he was funny and great conversationalist while his wife was playing with her iphone the whole time. As the dinner was winding up, no joke she says “Do you guys live close?” we say yes. She says “Do you have kids?” we say yes. She says “Are they home?” we say yes and she goes back to playing on her iphone. The wife and I both looked at each other and thought she is the pushing him into it. hahaha.

We had our poly meeting and I made that dude apologize to my wife and I in front of everybody. Shows him right for trying to pulll that crap on me last time. The people that run it were like “What the hell happened while we were gone?” I demasculated him pretty bad after my wife was told him that I had anger issues and had been working on them and that she doesn’t want me to go back to that state again HAHHA.

Then finally, we went to Kauai over the weekend and hooked up with the couple we met on AFF. We hung out with them all day and then got busy at night. Just a really crazy night and lasted till early morning. For the first 45 minutes, he was getting stage fright like that first couple we were with and my wife was ready to tap me in, but then he found his rhythm and next few hours went great! This is definitely a couple we will be great friends with and looking forward to having them come over to Oahu. The wife and I both have been acting like teenagers all day; feeling the residal effects. Oh and my wife got the other woman to try out some girl on girl action for the first time. I thought her husband’s eyes were gonna bust right out of his skull. I literally gave him a thumbs up! LOL!

So this week, is my wife’s week. When we went to that swingers party, we ran into a couple and we are going out with them on Tuesday. Both of us are totally hot for that couple. Now these guys are total swingers. Don’t want to have conversation or whatnot, and normally we don’t like this kinda thing, but my wife has the total hots for the dude and I think his ol lady is pretty fine, so we are gonna try it out. He and her already told us they are good to go and whenever we want, we can hook up. I was like damn!

After Tuesday, we are gonna lay low for a few weeks since I got a conference to go too. When I get back, we pick it back up.

Ok…so another post after two weeks…

We keep getting emails from that Jack and Lucy couple. The wife is totally not down with the guy, so gonna have to send him a dear john email back.

Went back to San Diego to see family and friends, and finally told my old high school buds about my wife and I and what we are doing. All were really understanding about it and it was nice to not have to defend what we do.

Then went to Georgia for the conference. While I was there, the wife went out with the person that runs the poly group meetings. I guess her and my wife talked about 3 hours about me and defined some parameters. She is super interested in me and my wife told her we can’t do anything without her. So the other female is contemplating if she wants to be with my wife and I or nothing at all.

While I was in Georgia, I did go on a meet and greet with somebody I met off AFF. She was nice and all, but she was definitely damaged goods. Mainly talked about her ex-husband and how he totally fucked her over. Nice body but her face was definitely messed up. I thought she might have been on something as well since she was constantly fidgeting and talking. Paid the bill and said goodbye to that one.

Got back Friday from Georgia. On Saturday, we went out with the neurologist and his wife. This was an interesting night. It first started out at a going away party for one of my employees. While there, my wife told me that one of the ladies there was flirting with her. This woman I play raquetball and go jogging with. She knows a little about what my wife and I do, so not sure what is going on there. My wife asked me if I would be ok with it (if it turned out to be anything) and I said sure. Will wait and see on that but if it did work out, that would be totally awesome.

We left from that party and went out with the neurologist/wife. We picked them up and we went to a party that was being held at some lounge. We had a really good time and had lots of fun. We met a ton of swinger types there and everybody was really friendly (except the one guy who ran that camping trip was there; we said hi but he just sat there by himself) and my wife won a prize for giving the best simulated BJ using a banana! My wife met another female there that told her she wants to go out with us sometime. They swapped numbers so will have to keep you updated on that as well.

We then left that party and went back to their house. We didn’t leave their house till 430am. My wife finally had a guy who didn’t get stage fright so she was happy happy happy. We had a really good time with them.

So…

I think my wife is a maenad. I am a socialable guy and like to converse which leads to going out with people, but my wife is in a whole different league than I am. I don’t know what it is, but she has this knack with women. They can’t get enough of her and she just brings it out in them. One thing we keep on hearing is that she looks so innocent and acts shy, so that could be it.

Our third came back on Sunday. She will be over on Wednesday. Then we have the meteorologist and his wife over on Saturday.

Oh, I guess there are a lot of single guys that sign up as fake couples on those sites. The guy we went out with Saturday, sat me down with my friends profile and pointed out all the ones he knew were fakes.

Super helpful. Also, something weird happened to the Kauai couple we visited. They removed their profile from AFF and when I txted her, she said that everything was ok but she would let us know what happened later. Me thinks she ran into a psycho single guy/girl or couple. Will keep you updated on that as well.

Mightynute · 2010-07-26T11:07:29.000Z

Wow. It seems like the politics and complications of the poly/swinger lifestyle can snowball pretty rapidly.

WarrenM · 2010-07-26T11:09:06.000Z

Oh, I guess there are a lot of single guys that sign up as fake couples on those sites.

… Why would someone do this? So you end up going on a date and it’s just the guy sitting there so now what does he expect to have happen?

Brian_Seiler · 2010-07-26T11:09:27.000Z

Supersport:

I think my wife is a maenad.

Run. Now. Before the meat tree.

Supersport · 2010-07-26T11:11:39.000Z

Mightynute:

Wow. It seems like the politics and complications of the poly/swinger lifestyle can snowball pretty rapidly.

Yeah things go quickly it seems. Since most people are REALLY open about their feelings, shit does not simmer for to long before boiling to the top.

One thing with the female poly lead, her primary/secondary are on the fence with me. I don’t know if they feel threatened but they don’t seem to be when I meet them. I really like both of them actually so I think that is another parameter she is working out with them right now and why there is a wait.

Supersport · 2010-07-26T11:14:37.000Z

WarrenM:

… Why would someone do this? So you end up going on a date and it’s just the guy sitting there so now what does he expect to have happen?

From what we heard (From the two couples we been with), they will show up and say that their wife is working or out of town or has some other plans and they were unable to make it but are cool with them being there. We haven’t run into that ourselves (I screen folks pretty well) but they have. What is funny is that if they didn’t lie, they probably could have hooked up with them because those couples don’t mind the single guy thing.

Brian_Seiler · 2010-07-26T11:15:00.000Z

WarrenM:

… Why would someone do this? So you end up going on a date and it’s just the guy sitting there so now what does he expect to have happen?

They expect for couples looking for somebody to put his dick in a woman to show up and say, “Hey - pool’s open, so everybody jump in!” I’m fairly well convinced after a fair amount of time spent observing the culture of AFF and the seedier side of Craigslist that these people don’t exist, but apparently you can’t kill the dream.

Supersport · 2010-07-26T11:18:48.000Z

Brian Seiler:

They expect for couples looking for somebody to put his dick in a woman to show up and say, “Hey - pool’s open, so everybody jump in!” I’m fairly well convinced after a fair amount of time spent observing the culture of AFF and the seedier side of Craigslist that these people don’t exist, but apparently you can’t kill the dream.

I think Brian touches on a particular trait I have been noticing with the couples we been dating. If you are open and honest, they accept you pretty fast. If you try to hide or otherwise be deceitful, they will shun you like the plague.

Zylon · 2010-07-26T11:25:34.000Z

Supersport:

I think my wife is a maenad.

Your wife gets drunk, loses all self-control, frenzies, engages in uncontrolled sexual behavior, and hunts down animals, tearing them to pieces and devouring the raw flesh? *

Mightynute · 2010-07-26T11:27:21.000Z

Zylon:

Your wife gets drunk, loses all self-control, frenzies, engages in uncontrolled sexual behavior, and hunts down animals, tearing them to pieces and devouring the raw flesh? li

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My god, he’s married to Ted Nugent.

Scrax · 2010-07-26T11:28:15.000Z

Man, you are kept busy. I don’t think I could keep up with all the social engagements. It really is a full on “lifestyle.”

AaronSofaer · 2010-07-26T11:31:11.000Z

Generally, I don’t hear “full on lifestyle” applied to swinging, but rather to other alternative choices.

Supersport · 2010-07-26T11:49:13.000Z

Scrax:

Man, you are kept busy. I don’t think I could keep up with all the social engagements. It really is a full on “lifestyle.”

I think it will slow down a bit though. The couple we went out with the other night mentioned how a lot of these people get in on the newbs pretty fast. So thinking after this initial wave, things will settle down a bit.

Supersport · 2010-07-26T11:49:51.000Z

Mightynute:

My god, he’s married to Ted Nugent.

LOL. Ok maybe not a Maenad :)

Siren?