Logistics, more than anything else, dictate that the answer be no to any traditional, living-together kind of relationship; for at least the next half-year, I’m in Baltimore, and she’s in the D.C. area at least for another year.
This is kind of sad but ever since I updated my OKC account with some rewrites to make it more “normal” and uploading that lame cheesecake pic I took I have been getting a lot more activity. I also decided to message a lot more girls, but the first move has been pretty equally split in terms of actual connections. I have a date lined up next week and probably another one with a girl who messaged me at some point as well. We shall see.
Don’t date “normals,” unless they’re just party poontang! It’s a waste of time — you’ll wind up answering questions about their butt versus Jennifer Aniston’s every night, and they’ll feel misled when they realize you have interests other than money and cute home furnishings. One of the advantages of online dating is that you can represent yourself ahead of time and screen out such unsuitables — so let it all hang out.
Or you’ll realize that you hate not being able to see her at night and wish that you could be with her. It really depends on what type of person you are, compared to the relationship that you want.
There is no solid easy way to define whether a long distance is good or bad. It’s a completely personal thing. I love having my own space, but I hated being in a 2 hour distance relationship because I couldn’t see that person as often as I’d have liked.
Shockingly, I find myself agreeing with JMJ. Unless you just WANT to scare the ladies away with your strange and exotic ways, you should let your freak flag fly online and let them filter themselves out.
JMJ is a man of many truths. And jars.
Totally, and I based my reply off what Aaron mentioned regarding his preference for that at the moment.
Also I understand your view completely - after experiencing both worlds I can safely say that a long distance relationship is fine for the beginning, but after a few months you find yourself wanting her (or him!) close by.
Yeah, see, I don’t actually do anything that scary or freaky. I was referring more to representing myself more accurately.
As any good relationship should be. You shouldn’t be content only seeing them in passing! That’s a friendship, not a partnership.
Hey hey. Two hours of public transit to get to someone’s place isn’t seeing them in passing. That’s plenty convenient for me to spend at least a few days/nights at her place. ;)
What you’re saying, then, is you’re no AaronSofaer. Got it.
;)
Couple of hours? I guess that’s using weekend transportation, and avoiding the Amtrak? Because if you can head down on a Friday night, it should only take you about an hour. In reality, it’s about 40 miles from city center to city center. I used to commute from BoMo to DC for work every day (well, right outside BoMo). Take the MARC train, and it’s an hour from Penn Station to Union Station. And unless she lives somewhere really outside the beltway (i.e., Vienna or Gaithersburg, etc.), you’re a short Metro ride from there.
Or take Amtrak, which is even faster (more like 35 minutes from Penn->Union, but not cheap, I know). Or hell, the easiest one is to just drive. On the weekends, it’ll take you 45 minutes…
I’m counting time from my apartment to Penn Station and from Union Station to her apartment, plus some leeway time because I hate missing trains.
And trust me, I know and love the MARC. 7 dollars from Baltimore to D.C.? Yes please.
Well I just got back from an excellent night with a lovely lady. I took mmalloy’s advice and just asked her out to a cool local pub after our show tonight. It’s got boardgames and darts and stuff, and we played Boggle and had a ball. We saw how many awesome fake words we could find and laughed a lot.
When I dropped her off at her car there wasn’t a great moment for a kiss goodnight, and I didn’t force it. I’m generally terrible at that moment, and she got out of the car and went to hers. I drove to the end of the block, thought, ‘what have I got to lose?’, parked, and went back and kissed her. It was good. She was happy.
:)
No idea what’s down the road other than a date tomorrow, but man, sometimes just going for it can be AWESOME! Thanks for the encouragement, guys and gals!
This is such a great post. Sweet.
Good luck.
-xtien
Great move. It’s good to be confident. Women tend to like that.
WarrenM
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That’s awesome, Doom, congrats! Love hearing stories like that.
Atta boy. Told you it would work!
