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Hahahah yeah it’s truly terrible. The sad thing is is that the guy is rich enough to buy some talent to transform PoF into something that doesn’t look like ass but he seems content with the 2000 era layout. There used to be links to the forums but he, or it, has removed the links altogether but the forums still exist. Why hide link but still retain the forums? .

Have you guys noticed a difference in the quality of your dates based on OKCupid’s matchmaking questionaire versus meeting someone random from other dating sites? I mean, did you really hit it off with those who scored 90% or above as a potential match or did a high match percentage make no difference? You ever go out with someone who ranked high as an enemy? I can see the usefulness in screening out religious fundies and Glenn Beck devotees but that’s about it.

5122

So we work on this show together, right? In the show I have a mustache, and we’ve named it Herbert, and four or five days ago she tells me “I wanna kiss you with Herbert!”

She is incredibly rad, and we make a good team; there is a ton of kissing, being goofy, and staying up far too late.

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In this scenario are you wearing the mustache or is she?

5124

I think they both are.

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Rugged, self-assured, adult…these are the words who describe a man who wears a mustache.

5126

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOpChXhglGg

Check out 2:54 for a tip on accessorizing.

5127

Maseratis are overrated; if you really want to catch a chick’s interest, you want a good racing bike (I can get you a really good deal on a Suzuki Hayabusa).

5128

All right, who invited Roethlisberger?

5129

At least it wasn’t an unsolicited reminder of your username and password.

What the hell, POF?

5130

No kidding. Everything PoF does tells me to just avoid it. OKcupid has been interesting for me over the years. Not a lot of personal success, admittedly (a little, hit or miss really), but I’ve signed friends up who ended up finding the person they’re marrying in under a month. The percentages did not lie.

5131

Honestly, I really dislike OkCupid’s percentages.

I don’t trust them unless a match dips below the 50% point. E.g., if I’m more than 50% unmatched, I’ll shy away from someone. But, the difference between a 98% match and a 66% match is inconsequential to me. I don’t think the system is well designed enough for the numbers to be anything more than another flavor of dating mysticism, a la Astrology.

IMO, The real genius of OkCupid is the way they convince users to enter quality, relevant, bits of information about themselves. It’s easy to enter, and easy to read.

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You’d be surprised. I’ve learned from former employees that they’re really pretty solidly put together, and I’m betting they’ll show off the bell curve at some point. But the basic is that 70s are fairly common, 80s are uncommon, and 90s are rare, under any match option.

Just go look for your highest enemy matches and you’ll see for yourself!

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I think they do solid Math; I just also think many of the questions don’t mean anything. The fact that arbitrary questions lead to a bell curve is what impresses me.

Separate from that, I think the big issue is OkCupid assumes everyone knows what they want. Frequently enough, I’m surprised by who I find attractive. So, I think it’s a big mistake to assume you know exactly who and what you want in an SO.

I just logged in to find a good example of an arbitrary question. This is literally the first question that popped up:
“How often do you tweet?”

For what it’s worth, I think all dating sites sell the match % snake oil. I wouldn’t trust match %'s until MMPI levels of statistical awesomeness are employed. For a dating site, I don’t even know that I’d have it in me to answer that kind of a test. So, maybe I’m just a grumpy odd ball.

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Actually, they assume users don’t really know, which I find amusing. Even mandatory isn’t, it’s just weighted strongly. And the only questions you’ll see for a very long time are ones that have received massive mandatories.

That’s not to say it’s a perfect system, I ended up with a self-proclaimed objectivist at 82%. But there’s more and more ways to determine who’s who on there, like those key questions they let you pick, the overall percentages, etc.

It’s a site that really does guide users into depth nicely.

5135

So! I have a date tomorrow. E. and I have been talking for a few days on AIM, and we’re going to meet up at a cafe near Metro Center, D.C… I’m hoping it goes well; we seem to connect quite well when we were talking, but there’s no telling what the in-person chemistry will be like. We stayed up until like 1 in the morning talking and she was delighted at my use of the word “voluble” to describe my conversational style, so at least I can entertain her by being myself.

D. and I have agreed that we’re manifestly unsuited for each other for many reasons, and since she’s looking to date rather more seriously than I am (I’m just going on dates, if a relationship happens then it happens) we’re going to stick to just gossiping with each other and comparing notes on our dates.

I keep trying to use POF, but every time I try, my eyes start bleeding. I’d rather pay money and use AFF than actually use POF as a method of finding dates. OkCupid really blows it out of the water, interface-wise.

However, the new OkCupid chart to your heart or whatever the heck they call it… is terrible and idiotic. No thanks.

It’s funny… as soon as I stopped trying to jump into another relationship, realized that I just need to go on dates and relax and be social, and rewrote my profile to suit… I’ve been having a lot more luck on OkC. Not that I’m complaining in the slightest! :)

And this is today’s update from your friendly sleep-deprived Aaron. Tune in next time!

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My wife and I both signed up when a buddy of mine was working there…and we have a 94% match. I’d say that’s probably pretty accurate after being married to her for 15+ years.

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Good news, everybody! In a sign of what must be great things to come, I have been added as a Favorite by another person on Plenty of Fish. This is unprecedented!

He writes, in part, about a first date:

The person who added me as a Favorite just a few days ago has apparently already removed me. Fickle.

I have also been viewed on PoF by a 22-year old transvestite in Saskatoon who uses a leopard skin theme for his profile.

I am quite excited about my future dating prospects, I don’t mind tellin’ you.

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So sorry, Ned, I thought I had my profile hidden when viewing yours.

5139

Mr Shouty’s bio reads like it came from Officer Barbrady.

5140

I think I miss when internet dating was a last resort option. At least then it was mostly overly smart socially awkward nerds who were slightly sad.

Granted I can resist neither a sad girl nor a shy girl. OKcupid was a gold mine back then!

Craigslist was still pretty horrible, though.