5161

I remember hearing a similar story, guy/girl on first date. Guy orders something sensible at restaurant. Girl orders most expensive thing on restaurant. Guy leaves coat on chair, says he’s going to the bathroom, and then bails. Price of new coat was cheaper than what the girl ordered, so he considered it an acceptable loss.

5162

On a first date, I’ll split the check if I don’t think there’s going to be a next date. If I do think there will be a next date, I’ll pick up the bill, and tell her that if she wants, she can pick up the tip, or just pay next time.

There was one time (my first date with K.) where she simply paid for the date, which she says is her standard practice for a good date, and we ended up switching off (or when we went to the movies, we split dinner / the movie).

And if someone came to the date after I said we were splitting 50/50 and ordered the most expensive thing on the menu, I’d just say “You know, I think we’ll have to do separate checks, so if you want to change your order…”

5163

This is one of those weird quasi-religious things. Some girls expect to never have to pay for an outing, some will only ever pretend to offer, but be deeply offended if you take them up on it, and some absolutely insist on paying their own way, regardless of how the dates going.

(To not sound to misogynistic, there are guys who have similar views of always having to pay, never paying on a first date, etc.)

For me, when dating someone from the interwebz, I almost always did separate checks on the first date, sometimes tempered by where they were at in life (college students are harder up for money than middle management), and how far they had to drive, etc.

5164

Josh, I’ll say for sure that if this wasn’t a local joint that I really love, I’d have left. But I’d have felt BAD leaving them with her. It was just unfair to Sushi Q to bail.

5165

This is probably one of those things where it’s easier for two guys. It’s always dutch (I think this was talked about a bit long ago in the thread) when I meet someone.

I always stick to something very simple for a first meeting – usually just a walk in ye olde park or going to a cafe for a beverage. Even in the worst case scenario you’d only be on the hook for less than ten dollars, typically.

Zeke’s date sounds awful from about a hundred different directions.

I’m set to meet Older Guy on Thursday at the same coffee shop where I also met The Most Boring Man on Earth and the extrovert with serious mental issues I dated back in June. Third time’s the charm, I’m sure!

5166

This happened to me. I was highly entertained. She was seething with rage, and I was dismissively oblivious. Then I busted out the “Oh, sorry, I didn’t realize you weren’t serious about your feminism” line and then it was just hilarity all the way down.

5167

I made an account on that eVow site to check it out and… it’s empty. Worse than Okcupid. The layout is almost exactly like PoF except in a different colour style. Slightly darker blue.

And oh the first thing you see about someone is.

Intent - Seeking a long-term relationship.

Five years from now, I want to be happily in love and in a committed long-term relationship.

5168

A good friend of mine has started dating again, and her perspective has become “I can put up with ANYthing for an hour or two.” To her, it’s all entertainment, even the douchiest douchelord of all.

A guy she meets on OKC and she arrange to meet at Dolores Park. He starts blatantly hitting on two European girls right in front of her, chatting them up, trying to speak Italian to the Italian girl. My friend goes, “Fuck it! Lets see where this goes!” She starts chatting with them, too, and he’s quickly left in the dust, conversationally. My friend hits it off with them really easily, and they all start talking about off-the-beaten-path San Francisco excursions and just generally having a really good time. At one point the dude takes a call on his cell and wanders off for 10 minutes.

As the tourist girls are getting ready to leave, the dude really starts putting the mack on the Italian girl, and the French girl starts laughing. She tells my friend, “We are having trouble making plans to go dancing because my friend is only 17…!” My friend and she just laugh and the dude looks like a jackass. My friend has him walk her back to the train station, and he tries to kiss her. She literally pushed him back, both hands out. “Thanks! Bye now.”

She sees it all as good stories to tell friends. She tries to go on 1 date every 2 weeks, so even if something is crappy, there’s something else coming up. A great attitude overall!

5169

In my own dating news, myself and the lovely gal from my show just spent two days camping and hiking down in Big Sur, which is the gorgeous car commercial territory south of Monterey.

I’m so damn glad I asked her out (and went back for the kiss). We get along really well and laugh a ton. I’ll be sad to see her move back to school in a week, but I’ve been really glad to have what we’ve had. It’s been a great month!

5170

Woo hoo!

I’m totally taking credit for this.

5171

Mazel tov, Doom! Be sure to stay in touch with her; you never know when you’ll end up in her area, or she in yours. ;)

5172

Awww, that’s awesome DM. Well, not that she’s going back to school, but that you guys hit it off so well. I’m glad you asked her out!

5173

Your friend needs to blog, or link her to this thread and have her post every 2 weeks =)

5174

I concur :)

~C~

5175

This just in-- White people are boring, black people are religious, Latinos like merengue, Asians are simple, atheists are literate, and everyone likes Alicia Keys.

The Data Has Spoken.

5176

Ooh! Updates! I do love the pattern analysis via large statistical swaths. So much fun.

5177

Is the Coleman-Liau index for real? Is it a respectable tool for gauging literacy? Going by Wikipedia, it only seems to measure longwinded-ness.

5178

They link directly to the Wikipedia article describing it, so yes, it’s real. Also, yeah, pretty much just a measure of how long your sentences are.

5179

So girls like to dance, and everyone writes at about an 8th grade level.

5180

I absolutely love the OkCupid data updates. We don’t get data like that anywhere else…