Many eyes were pointed in their direction.
Literally to the point to where I got up to go get her a drink and while there, at least 4 to 5 of the guys were not even watching the comedians but staring at Ms. Super. Think next time we might hang with the 30 under crowd but then we might be the old staring types!
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Well, there were some more personal issues that I am not comfortable sharing both this time and previously. If you wish to call it irrational, that is your freedom of choice. But those that know way more of the story recognize how incredibly very rational it was.
A few of Esquire’s “Rules for Social Networking and the Internet”:
Rule 706: Everyone is 30 percent more attractive in their online profile picture than they are in real life.
Rule 707: 50 percent more attractive if it’s a black-and-white photo.
Rule 708: 70 percent more attractive if it’s a black-and-white photo and half their face is in shadow.
Rule 709: And if that shadow is being created by a kitten they’re holding, forget it.
Can anyone loan me a kitten?
So I was talking with some friends of mine about OkCupid (we were comparing notes on peoples’ profiles, sharing profiles and stories, and laughing) and I verbalized something that had been on my mind for a while.
OkCupid isn’t really a dating site. What it is, is a social networking site geared around meeting people… which makes it a better dating site than any of the others.
Funny that.
If anyone wants to meet single moms, meth-heads, and swingers - I highly recommend the KC area searches on OKC. Because that is all there is.
Maybe they could turn that into a marketing gimmick: OKCupid - when you’re ready to just settle. or OKCupid - it’s the best you can hope for.
Maybe that’s why it’s “OK” Cupid.
Wait, so people don’t go on dates from OKC? I’ve been doing it wrong!
Don’t know if this has been posted before. This thread is too massive to properly follow.
You kid, sir, but I might point out that OkCupid is becoming more and more of a social networking site (masses of questions, the quizzes, the Journal, news feeds, friend networks, a forum, etc etc), which is part of the root of its success.
Also, I go on tons of dates from OkC. :)
Today something amazing happened. All three of my quiver matches were from Vancouver (the one I live in, not the one in Washington state). This is a remarkable change from the usual “let’s match you up with someone 500 miles away”.
Yeah those single moms. What a bunch of losers!
— Alan
I guess I don’t understand the difference, then. I have used Facebook as the model for social networking, which to me means keeping in touch with friends, family, and even co-workers. I didn’t realize people used OKC like Facebook.
Okay, look at it this way - would you see someone who said “I work 60 hours a week at my job and it is the most important thing in my life and nothing will ever change that” as a) dateable or b) borderline obsessive? Obviously that person’s set their priorities and anyone who dates them is never ever going to rate higher than a second-tier afterthought.
Now, look at someone who’s raising a child, which is a full-time, no-vacations, had-better-take-110%-of-your-best-effort job. Anyone they’re dating has to be a second-tier afterthought, or they’re a shitty parent - which makes them someone I wouldn’t want to date anyway. There’s no winning solution to that equation, so I don’t consider single parents as dateable options.
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It’s not fair… but it’s fair.
If you’re looking for someone to have a long term relationship with, kids or not kids can be quite the deal breaker. If the guy hasn’t had kids and she has, she may be very much unwilling to have any more, when the guy would like to start his own family; while, at the same time, she’s looking for a guy that can hopefully take much of the burden of being a single mom off her shoulders without, from her perspective, expecting much more from her end on the kid topic. Most guys just want to have their own at some point, and if the woman already has a family and isn’t interested in doing it all over again, it doesn’t really matter how well they gel if their long term goals are irreconcilable.
And then of course, some women are just wired differently than others. I remember in college i was friends with a very attractive older student, 24ish, intelligent and well spoken, who i was interested in until finding out she had three kids from three different dads; clearly, for her, sex, childbirth, parenting, all that, were in a very different place than most other women, and you needed to be quite aware of it unless you’re keen on writing child support checks for the next 18 years.
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Same in Louisville, I was completely disheartened until I signed up for Match where all the attractive women were hiding. One thing to remember is that women will spend money on different things that men. How many women have you known that were making the same or less money than you but were renting an apartment at twice the cost of yours? I think this is also true for dating sites, the girls you want to meet have decided they’ll pay for quality.
H.
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Of course, with Match you also deal with ringers that are there to make your match pool more attractive but may or may not be real accounts, as well as empty accounts listed as recently logged in, even if they’ve cancelled years ago (Match keeps all account information after cancellation, and if you click on any link in one of their “please come back” pester emails, it tracks it as if you’ve just logged in).
But hey, probably not as many of those worthless no-good desperate single moms.
— Alan
