Guys, seriously now. Listen to your ol’ Uncle JMJ.
When you ask someone out or start dating them, you have no way of knowing the full context of your meeting, and you never really will. Talking about whether they’re being straightforward about their reasons for any rejection or mixed messages is missing the full range of possibilities.
She (or he) may not actually be single, but was annoyed by something the boyfriend said last week and is considering dumping him while waiting for an apology and wants to see what’s out there.
She may have wanted to get out there and score when she posted the ad, but now she has a mysterious rash and doesn’t know if it may be connected to that guy she met at the bar last month, and she’s waiting to see if it clears up.
Her mother may be dying.
She may only be online in an attempt to not be secretly in love with her booty call anymore.
She may only be after the feeling of being sought after, or (taking that one step further) the sadistic thrill of rejecting those who seek her.
She may be clinically depressed and well able to flirt online but unable to make herself actually leave her house.
She may have not noticed previously that you’re only 5’11" when she’s only attracted to men between 6’5" and 6’6".
Most importantly with online dating, she’s browsing a catalog. In one mood she shops for one kind of item, in another she shops for something else. She makes a list of possible ways to decorate her bedroom, decides on one, then suddenly changes her mind entirely when an updated catalog arrives.
Who can tell? You can’t, so don’t try. Let your motto be “Easy come, easy go,” and also “If you can’t rock me, somebody will.”
