Actually, I kind of like John’s advice. Rather than get worked up about whether someone is being straight with you or feeding you an excuse, just assume that they are always telling thr truth no matter how far fetched it is and move on. You’re never going to see this person again so why waste energy being angsty about the way they expressed their disinterest, especially considering that their lame sounding excuse may actually be true.
Maybe they are trying to be nice and spare your ego (in which case their impulse is a generous one) or maybe the situation really is not a reflection on you. Why not assume the latter?
Well, because if the person was like, “I’m too busy right now” and you take that at face value then if you like them, there’s a temptation to follow up after a little bit and see if they are less busy. If you take it as “You aren’t worth making time for” then you can just move along without worrying about it. I don’t take it as a reflection on me, only a reflection of their attitude towards me.
Great story.
I mean, it’s a story with terrible things in it… but you told it quite well.
Guys, we have to get JMJ on Vicodin again, because that was hilariterribleous.
Pogo
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I was half expecting him to discover she was a hairy hippy.
Yes, we should take up a collection.
fire
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Serious question: Is it weird that she contacted you sporadically?
Edit: This has happened to me, and I’m guilty of it to some extent.
I have an ex that does that. She was my first gf in my teenage years, so it’s been a long time but she still does it. She’s not quite as mental as the lady JMJ described, but she’s in the same ballpark. It is a little weird, but not out of character for someone clingy enough to try and move in with a guy after only dating a few days.
It’s been my experience that sporadic contact from old flames coincide with times of loneliness or unhappiness on their part, especially say immediately post break-up with someone else.
I have an ex that’s been doing that for the last 4 years or so. And yeah it does seem to coincide with loneliness/unhappiness because she never calls to talk about anything uplifting.
And jesus, that JMJ post. I’m speechless.
kerzain
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Not sure of JMJ’s point, I thought all women were like that.
JM1
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Still single, kerzain? :(
kerzain
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Well, not all of us can show off our substantial lottery winnings to attract our mates.
JM1
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You know women who’d fall for about a month and a half’s wages? Excellent.
JM1
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I admit my line would’ve been done better had I remembered (from the discussion about that awesome photoshop) that kerzain is married. Gah.
