5541

I have no idea who that guy is and it’s probably best that I don’t.

5542

To be fair, the rational mind tends to reject information like that.

5543

I make a point of never contacting or letting myself be contacted by any of my ex’s after breaking up. I don’t think I’m the type to even want to be friends with an ex (or let a flame rekindle.)

My boyfriend on the other hand has received a handful of phone calls from ex-girlfriends since we’ve been dating. Usually it’s the “Guess what! I have cancer!” variety, but it kind of weirds me out.

5544

With me it’s the ones who feel they “didn’t win” that pop up, seeking either a do-over or to try to re-tell the story in a way that’s more favorable to them. It’s an ego thing.

On the other hand, when I’ve done it myself it’s been an attempt to get back to a safe place in times of trouble. I learned this about myself the hard way and quit doing it, unless it really is a safe place.

5545

I went out with ham radio guy on Saturday. Summary:

  • the pic in his profile is about five years old and from an apartment he no longer lives in.
  • the world map seen in his profile pic was used for both plotting who had been contacted and also for labeling the prefixes/call signs used around the world (eg. Canada is VA and BC is VA7).
  • the equipment pictured is not at his new condo because he is living in an antenna-restricted area. He and some other radio people (hammies?) have gone in on a 100 acre farm in Langley with a sea container that is used to house the equipment of several members. They have laptops running software that will automagically turn the antennas for different regions around the globe.
  • his 4x4 is certified to use those highway Disaster Evacuation Routes in the event of some calamity because his truck has radio equipment that can be used for communication when other systems might be down.
  • he has a mountain bike that cost around $10,000 that he crashed when indulging in a little extreme biking on Mount Seymour this past spring. He went over a 12 foot embankment, the front wheel of the bike caught a stump and he vaulted forward, landing on his head. He broke his neck in three places and had to wear a cage over his head for four months to prevent it from moving. There were four bolts drilled into his skull to hold it in place. He has recovered and the cage has been off for a few months. He says he probably won’t go back to that style of biking.
  • he is super outdoorsy. When I asked about hiking he named places I haven’t even heard of and waxed about views that were so spectacular you could see the curve of the Earth on the horizon.
  • he has the exact same ball cap (from Mountain Equipment co-op) that I do – we both showed up wearing them.
  • he is indeed left-handed.
  • he has never dated a guy before.

It was an interesting experience.

5546

Wow. That is…really cool. I hope “interesting” means something positive (or at least moves to that).

The thing about the place in Langley totally makes this sound like a movie setup. Like one of you is Tom Cruise and the other is…erm…Cameron Diaz.

I’m not saying which is which. Nope.

Good luck.

-xtien

“By the way, your timing on the door…sublime.”

5547

Was that his main profile pic? You shouldn’t be posting a pic of you that’s 5 years old, especially not for a profile.

He’s never dated a guy before? Did he think this was a date?

On another note… best way to get noticed on OKC is apparently to constantly refresh your profile so you keep cropping back up in random feeds. Imagery probably the best way… delete one pic, then re-upload or something. I get more hits that way…

Also, maybe people in SF are much more friendly. I’m getting a lot more conversations out of people than I ever got in Austin. Which is weird, as Austin is an amazingly friendly town (usually). And Texas is mostly a friendly state.

— Alan

5548

You should have asked him if he picked up any signals with his cage. Heh.

5549

Since he seems to have only recently switched teams, did he mention ever having homosexual feelings before the head injury? Not that I’m connecting the two (but is there a connection? Should I be worried?)

5550

We need a volunteer to hit kerzain in the head until he turns gay. FOR SCIENCE!

5551

I’d watch that for a dollar.

— Alan

5552

Yeah, a five year old pic in a profile is a no-no. He didn’t look much different, though.

He said he’s known he was gay since he was a young 'un so no magical transformation via head trauma. We didn’t discuss why he never acted on it earlier but I got the impression he has been very career-driven as an adult and felt a need to make a change.

It was definitely a date! We met for coffee, went for the proverbial walk in the park (it was a beautiful day), followed that with an early dinner (and got sat next to a party of about 15 kids gathered for a birthday, complete with the waiter singing Happy Birthday in a scarily accurate Scooby Doo voice), watched Groundhog Day back at his place and listened to Jack Johnson (that’s proof he’s gay, right?)

We will be meeting again. I am expecting to see the Langley compound.

5553

I dunno. Who’s Jack Johnson?

— Alan

5554

Singer songwriter, IIRC, pretty sedate guitar-centric music.

5555

And if we never see Ned post again…

5556

Yeah, I’ve been doing this a bit, though mostly tweaking sentences in there. Answering new questions publicly works too. I find myself looking at that feed to find more matches, too. Though partially that’s because I’m hoping to find someone who’s currently online.

5557

Do not want.

5558

Hasn’t the gay community suffered enough?

5559

Hey now…a lot of stoners I know listen to Jack Johnsen too.

5560

I’m pretty sure polls indicate stoners are more likely to experiment with gay sex than non-stoners (or whatever the term for this segment of the population might be), so stoner listening habits seem to meet expectations.