I would always suggest being yourself around potential partners. Being anything else will ultimately result in problems further down the road. That’s the only advice I’ve ever given, and the only advice I’ve ever followed.

But please don’t stop with the analysis/confidence rape, it’s fantastic.

Unless my eyes deceive me, that appears to be a six-pointed star, not a pentagram, which would indicate not Paganism but Judaism.

Well, we all know how fire feels about jewish goths. ;)

I believe you are correct.

Thanks for the analysis to everyone who’s done one. I’m kind of surprised at the take on the T-shirt, but I guess I am getting a bit old to be dressing like a college kid.

It is indeed a jewish star, not a pentagram - a gift from my parents where the star itself is made up of my initials. The watch is also of sentimental value. The picture was taken at my cousin’s apartment, so she’s the one with the poor just-out-of-college job, but it’s interesting that that comes through so easily in the photo.

Anyway, thanks again - I will look into both classing up my look and finding a better spot for a photo, but keep the goofy grin, beard and “I don’t give a fuck” attitude ;)

Wait what? Ears keep growing? Thats the oddest thing I’ve heard all day. A quick Google suggests that your nose keeps growing too. Which made me giggle for some reason.

Goes to show, you do learn something new everyday.

DO NOT STARE AT THEM TOO LONG. That way leads to madness.

Are you kidding? Bring on the tough love! It is very entertaining! I am tempted to reactivate my account (deactivated when I started seeing someone as ladies, albeit kind of desperate-seeming ones, kept messaging me) just to retrieve my photo for fire-judgment!

OOOPS!! My bad. Have you tried JDate? :-P

Busted.

Oh heck no, these profilings are the high point of this thread! You’re like the Nerd Whisperer!

Never would I have suspected that OKC pictures would undergo such intense analysis and extrapolation rather than a quick is-(s)he-hot gestalt. Are you guys big Sherlock Holmes fans, or what?

That’s what makes it entertaining to read!

Hahahaah

Man, this is a lot of fun, reading fire’s critiques on the pictures…

And makes me realize I’d never do online dating if it’s that shallow. I’m on OKCupid, along with my wife, because a friend used to work there. I viewed matches and so on…and when I looked at pictures, it was always to see the personality and looks as much as possible. Do they smile? Am I attracted to them? What do their eyes say? etc. I didn’t notice the backgrounds unless they really stood out for whatever reason.

And for my own profile pics? I didn’t put any up, but if I did, it would be me exactly as I am. I wear jeans/khakis and a tshirt with either a picture or a logo or whatever on it…because that’s what I like. Why would I wear something else if that’s not how I really dress?

shrugs Maybe I’m just not into the spirit of it, or maybe I’m more for being myself and letting people that like pictures of the real me contact me… Or maybe I’d just really suck at online dating…and dating in general for that matter. ;)

I think you overestimate the “shallowness” of it, Matt. It’s not really about dressing up or presenting yourself differently than you are. But it’s sort of like… how would you dress if you were going on a date with someone? In particular, if you went on a date where you went to have a cup of coffee? “Date casual”, if you will.

Well, when you go to a job interview, you dress up. And everyone knows you don’t normally dress like that; you’re making yourself look better than usual to make an amazing first impression. How many of those women’s photos did you glance over and decide that you weren’t attracted, even before reading their profile? Women do the same thing, except there’s also a feeling of “I’m too old/bored to teach this guy to shower/shave/dress up.”

I once met a large woman that wore spandex tights and oversized t-shirts and would burp loudly at meals. She said, “One day, I will meet a man that will love me for who I am.” Then she burped.

In my very limited experience watching my male friends date, it’s easier to first meet someone who loves you for most of who you are. Then bring out the skeletons, one at a time. You’re not being disingenuous for putting your best foot forward; you’re being tactful and polite. The Real You will come through soon enough (most likely, at your first date). Why hinder your first date chances?

I hear your comment that nobody puts so much time into scrutinizing a photo. That’s true. One potential mate will see one thing, and another will see something else in the same photo. I’m trying to bring out some of the things that mates may not notice on a conscious level but may contribute to the split-second “hot-or-not” decision-making.

Jesus Christ, do all women analyze pictures that much? Holy cow. The most thought I put into pictures is “Am I smiling in this one?” “Does it make my head look fat?” That’s about it.

Post yours. I dare you. ;-)

“Overall, pretty good, but you should probably clean that hot tub. And for god’s sake, PUT SOME PANTS ON.”

The question is, honesty or griefing?