Bluemax, have you read First Date Smoochin’, the seminal (heh) Qt3 dating thread? Do so now, for the lulz AND for a detailed examination of how NOT to obsess over one girl. And then the next. And then the next. Etc.
Careful! Following the example of the First Date Smoochin’ thread may wind up resulting in marriage and other expensive consequences!
Met the girl I’m interested in in person, at last. We were going to wait until Sunday but the suspense was proving to be too much for both of us, and so I ducked out of work early to go meet her at her place of work.
The chemistry was very good, even though I was extremely nervous and anxious on the inside. She showed me around and then I walked her to her car. I then asked her “So do you still want to…” and she said, “Yes, I do.” Then she said, “Can I hug you?”, and we hugged and said goodbye. Now she’s off with her band for the weekend. I was not expecting that hug.
I’m doing my best to throttle my enthusiasm and anxiety and obsessive nature. Overall, I have a very good feeling about this person, but I understand that absolutely anything could happen at this point. Not exactly sure what Sunday will entail yet given her schedule, but I’m betting on a movie and drinks.
bluemax
6324
I’m almost afraid to ask/search for it.
I know I have fixation issues, it took me a long time to stop thinking about my ex non stop.
I’ve tried to go on dates with a lot of women to maybe help, but I feel like it takes so much work just to get someone to meet up for coffee or something.
I think my dating search and job search both have similar types of frustration and dealing with them both is aggravating.
bluemax
6325
Holy crap that thread is 80 pages!
Yeah well this one is 210 :)
— Alan
Raife
6327
It really depends on how badly you want a good grade.
Quality over quantity, Alan.
Xerapis
6329
I’m moving next month, so I’ve been doing the long-distance search and connect thing on OKCupid. No point in meeting people “here”.
So there’s this one guy I’ve been chatting with. Tonight on the phone he shared that he hasn’t seen much Star Track (sic) but that he liked Voyager with Captain Jennaway (sic) and Seven out of Nine (sic).
I’m still cringing.
ZekeDMS
6331
That’s the bigger issue, to be fair.
“Seven out of Nine” cracks me up, for some reason. I can hear her saying, “You may also refer to me by my other designation, 77.7%” (I hope I did the math right. Like Barbie, I hate math.)
While I’m a little conflicted on bad spelling in profiles, IMs and other online means of expression (it rankles me but I know it’s ultimately not a big deal), if you’re going to be a Star Trek nerd, at least do it right. Voyager is not doing it right. Misspelling everything about Voyager is not doing right with extra whipped cream.
On the other hand, maybe it’s a test to see if you will correct the glaring errors and thus reveal yourself as the bigger Star Trek nerd.
Xerapis
6333
I’m pretty much the Lord Godiva of sci-fi nerds. It’s out there on display. I’m not even sure if I can put it away at this point.
I just keep telling myself there is hope, if he’s only really seen Voyager and he liked that dreck. Surely if I duct tape him to a chair and play all of TNG and DS9 in a row, he will become one with the glory which is Star Trek supergeekdom.
JM1
6334
A Firefly & Farscape double whammy would be interesting.
ScubaV
6335
That’s an interesting point regarding spelling and grammar. In permanent communication (e-mails, forum posts, etc.) I tend to be very meticulous about my writing. But, if it’s live chat I usually go for all lowercase and very little punctuation since it’s faster and easier. I wonder what the perception would be there? Multiple personalities? Avoid the crazy!
If you can type well, it doesn’t take that much more time to capitalize and punctuate correctly. So, the options are either A: The other person sucks as a typist, or B: The other person’s just too lazy to type properly. It impresses me when people take the time and care to actually construct a sentence well.
What Omniscia said. I like my women literate.
Random data point: In live chat I usually don’t punctuate or capitalize much, and plenty of other people I know who are literate and can write well do the same thing. It’s not mutually exclusive with being literate. It’s more about habit or convention or for sociability’s sake matching the expected tone of the people on the other end of the communication. I think it’d be a mistake to get too judgmental about that sort of thing.
i use no capitals for aesthetic reasons. don’t judge me!
ZekeDMS
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I use urmom for aesthetic reasons. Like “she’s hot” and “dat ass.”
