No, actually I don’t. Typically when I disagree completely with a poster is when I put the most effort into being fair to them.
Nope.
Actually I live in the best world of all, but college ain’t it. And in the world(s) where I live, looks isn’t even the biggest thing. In the one case, it’s mutually held interests; in the other, it’s raw brilliance.
The world Martin lives in presupposes, among other things (and this is talking at Martin, not Tortilla):
-That money actually matters a damn. I guarantee you, if I were making 30k a year doing awesome things, I’d have more luck getting laid / finding a mate than if I were making 100k a year doing boring things.
-That people can be quantified into some arbitrary rating. Yes, I know your precious PUA buddies have this awesome scale and this great advice re: negs, but get over it, PUA is retarded.
-That women have neither agency nor depth of desire, but merely a shallow attraction to money and … well, money.
All three of these things are absurd presumptions, which I will admit are entirely in line with the bullshit that we all get fed most of our lives, but do make at least a token effort to use your brain.
Were you responding to me or Martin?
EDIT: Oh, it appears I haven’t thrown my obligatory stones at Martin yet so I’m assumed to be in complete agreement with him on everything because I quibbled over a tangential point. Let’s get that taken care of.
Martin is a sexist poopiehead and women don’t really value wealth above all when choosing mates.
Only my first two lines were at you, Tortilla. :) The rest was at Martin. Edited it for clarity.
I used to be handsome and poor-ish. Now I’m handsome and rich-ish. I got laid like a mofo in both conditions. Know why? Because I’ve got a huge fucking Johnson, that’s why. Knowing it’s there gives me all the confidence anyone could want. My 2c.
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I love you, John Many Jars!
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I agree with this. I’ve always explained it as “Well, that’s one less thing I have to worry about”.
I’m going to take a stab in the dark and guess everyone in this thread has a massive schlong, defying all statistics.
Mine is average. Anyways…
A lot of mid-30s single women who don’t have kids, want them. They know their eggs are quickly approaching shelf life. These women, who were not fucking guys like you because of their own great expectations (grounded in reality or otherwise) about their ideal mate, -are- ready to settle, on the condition that hubby is ready to be a daddy. The women I see around me who are happy with being childless and are “attractive, intelligent, and stable” are either spoken for, are interested in the finer things in life, or are pathological workaholics in extremely consuming vocations that don’t have much time for “normal”. Trust me: when you figure out your actual place on the food chain relative to your merits, values, and direction in life, you will magically see dating doors opening all around you. All IMO, IME, FWIW, etc.
However large or small my schlong is, it is neither too small nor too large, and wielded with sufficient skill.
This defies all statistics. No really, it does.
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Regardless, this attitude is mostly all that matters. Mostly.
And a lot don’t.
These women, who were not fucking guys like you because of their own great expectations (grounded in reality or otherwise) about their ideal mate,
Or who aren’t fucking guys because too many guys ascribe to societal paradigms that are completely idiotic. Like you.
-are- ready to settle, on the condition that hubby is ready to be a daddy.
Or on the condition that hubby is not a total sexist douchebag.
The women I see around me
Confirmation-bias warning.
who are happy with being childless and are “attractive, intelligent, and stable” are either spoken for, are interested in the finer things in life, or are pathological workaholics in extremely consuming vocations that don’t have much time for “normal”.
Translation: The women around me don’t fuck me because they’re interested in the finer things in life, such as men who aren’t sexist docuhebags.
Trust me: when you figure out your actual place on the food chain relative to your merits, values, and direction in life, you will magically see dating doors opening all around you.
Translation: Sit down, Beta male, I paid attention in the PUA classes I went to and they’re totally right! Why are you guys being so dumb? Women are shallow bitches with no agency of their own.
All IMO, IME, FWIW, etc.
IMO: In My Retarded Opinion
IME: In My Blinkered Existence
I could go on. But I’m lazy, and I have Automata homework to do, so I’ll go do one homework problem and then I’ll make fun of Martin some more.
And if you can’t pull off confidence like this, you can always buy an extender. Yo!
I would do the shaved head thing if I wasn’t so certain I’d look like a cancer patient as a result. And it would totally be because my hair is thinning, not because a shaved head is empowering, cool, macho or whatnot. I have my massive schlong* for that!
- I kid, mostly. I once had a date ask me if I had measured it and replied that I had not. He then wanted to know and of course, the ol’ ‘hide the sausage’ vibe was getting pretty strong. To defuse the situation (I had a strong wet blanket vibe happening, myself), I looked over a few images of scantily clad men that I managed to find on the Internet and referenced one as ‘that seems close’, to which his reaction was one of barely concealed glee. I never did any measuring so I am still unable to reference the dimensions should I be invited to do a spread in a magazine that asks for my measurements, turn-ons and turn-offs (almond butter, nuclear war) and other assorted data.
I have a few bald guy friends who use HeadBlade razors and swear by 'em. Hope that’s helpful.
Agreed. Don’t ever change buddy.
I use one as well. It speeds the shaving process nicely. Their shaving cream is the best as well (I actually only use the cream on my head, because if I use it on my face it shaves so close that I get ingrown hairs).
So moving away from random sexism and head-shaving tips, how much stock do people put in OKC’s match percentage? Is this something that everyone always ignores, is it super-critical-important to the point where people will ignore overtures from low-percentage matches, or (I suspect) somewhere in-between?
I actually put a fair bit of weight into the percentage, but only if she and I have an intersect of at least 100 questions. And even then, I regard it only as an indicator of common interests or general outlooks on things, not as an indicator of actual compatibility as people. Basically, I see it as a measure of how well we’d get along, not of how well we’d be as a couple.
That said, I do pay attention to specific answers. If I’m sufficiently interested in a girl, I’ll see the “The Two of Us” section and go over her answers. Most questions are superficial, but every now and then there’s a telling one. If, for example, she and I are at 95% but she answers “How often do you like to get really RIPPING drunk” with “Every weekend, baby!” I know she’s probably not the one for me.
I find that answering the questions is sort of fun, actually, and I’m trying to be careful not to rack up like 1500 questions full of potentially date-disqualifying information.
Also, I’m a fairly non-judgmental person with lots of alternative-lifestyle friends, so I feel like answering the questions gives a misleading picture of me. Yes, I’m totally down with bisexual polyamorous pagan SCA anarchist feminist activists, but in actual practice, I wear khakis and buy my furniture at Ethan Allen, you know?
