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Updating my “internet dating thing” status/cred here for posterity.
My relationship with GreenEyes has come to an end. (Met through OKC in late April; on again / off again through September.) It’s her idea but it’s amicable and I think we’ll remain friends for what that’s worth. I’m feeling ok about things right now and probably will come to realize that by her cutting me loose as she has done she is doing me a favor of sorts.
Basically, she’s trying to come to grips with some very serious medical issues in her life. I think she had some fears about it in the back of her mind when we met but since then she’s been dealt some really tough blows and it looks like her worst fears may be confirmed. I had tried telling her that it didn’t change the way I felt about her (and that’s just me being honest, not hyperbole) but she tells me she doesn’t have the energy to pursue a relationship with me any more and so what can I do?
So. I have reactivated my OKC account. Time to see what’s next for Mr_PeaCH.
Sorry to hear about that, Mr_Peach. Seems like she was probably considering your feelings as well in her decision.
Good luck on the new search.
Suppose I should update too…
Still seeing the lady mentioned previously. We’ve been chatting/texting quite a bit but have only found time for 2 dates with #3 planned for Monday. Things are going well enough that we’ve both disabled our OKC profiles for now.
This internet dating things is all right.
I wonder if I should change my screen name on these dating sites. DaBootyBandit just isn’t working for me.
Change it to DasBootyBandit and maybe you’ll catch yourself a German cinephile or two.
Why in god’s name would I want to attract German pedophiles? I’m not currently employed by Penn State, for cryin’ out loud.
…maybe I’ll have better luck on these sites with “SirHumpsALot”
Pshaw…I moved beyond that years ago. Now I host Call of Cthulhu Bachelor Parties. Tentacles…tentacles everywhere.
Man, I REALLY want to click on those links while here at work… but… I like being employed.
No dirty pictures behind either link. D&D with Porn Stars does occasionally show one, though. It’s the gaming blog of an “Old-School Renaissance” DM who literally plays D&D with porn stars — his girlfriend is a Suicide Girl and their friends include porn stars, former porn stars, a stripper, and a hairdresser (all girls).
They did a web series for The Escapist a while back where they taped some of their sessions, with porn special guests sitting in. It’s fucking awesome. The hairdresser is my favorite; she’s just adorable. “I’m really, really good at sneaking, OK?”
No dirty pictures behind either link. D&D with Porn Stars does occasionally show one, though. It’s the gaming blog of an “Old-School Renaissance” DM who literally plays D&D with porn stars — his girlfriend is a Suicide Girl and their friends include porn stars, former porn stars, a stripper, and a hairdresser (all girls).
They did a web series for The Escapist a while back where they taped some of their sessions, with porn special guests sitting in. It’s fucking awesome. The hairdresser is my favorite; she’s just adorable. “I’m really, really good at sneaking, OK?”
So, I haven’t spoken to that girl I had all the drama with in about 2 months. Funnily enough, I’ve spent those two months realizing I’m actually pretty fucking awesome. It’s amazing what a little self esteem and confidence will do for you. Still having hit or miss luck on OkCupid but I’ve gotten a number from a girl just about every night for the past week and a half just going out with friends. Like, girls I never would have even considered talking to before. Some new clothes, a little extra attention to the details, a little self confidence and a honey badger attitude about talking to girls will really get you pretty far. Just met a girl tonight at a friend’s volleyball game and I can’t wait to talk to her again. And the feeling seems to be mutual. So, yeah. Just saying, you guys should stop overthinking things and just go for it in person. Seriously. I know it sounds dumb and I read that advice for years and couldn’t do anything about it but it really is true. I even hooked a friend up with a girl we met at the bar and they’re on their third date or so. Have I mentioned that I am awesome? :)
I’ve also managed to turn the tables for the first time in my dating experience. Girls buying me drinks, girls acting too nervous to talk to me, etc. All the stuff guys expect to have to experience dealing with the girls and I’m just sitting back and acting chill while they’re the ones squirming. Again, it’s kind of awesome. Seriously look inside yourself and find the positives and just go with it. There’s nothing to be nervous about. Girls are human beings too. They’re nervous, self conscious and shy just like guys are. Learn to see past all that and it’s like getting to see the man behind the curtain. It all suddenly makes sense. The stupid games I see dating people playing all seem to click for me now. I get it. It’s like being able to see the Matrix through a bunch of code on a screen and it’s a really liberating feeling.
So, go me I guess. :)
That’s great, Eric! Now you don’t even need me as a wing man. But I’ll still take you up on drinks next time in Lakewood, which may be near Thanksgiving actually…not positive yet. In any case, you are absolutely right. People are people. There’s no reason to be nervous. If you don’t end up getting along with someone, whatever. It happens. There are lots of people out there who are likely to be interested in you, so just enjoy it.
Well I can still use the help wherever I can get it, so don’t count yourself out as wingman yet haha ;) Just saying it’s nice to make some realizations in this area. I kinda feel like a moron for taking as long as I did to figure this out, but I guess I’m not the only one struggling to figure it out… Still, it feels good. For the first time in my life I feel like the dating thing is really going how it should and it’s great. Yay and stuff. :P
Hadn’t seen any updates from anyone here in a week or so, so I thought I’d drop an update myself.
Been seeing a gal now since the end of September. She’s a super-doc, and way out of my league but hey, I’ll take what I can get. ;-)
She was one of a slew of contacts I got after I’d changed my profile pic back in September. Seriously, nothing except my profile pic changed and I got some 60 hits (over half of them winks or emails) inside of 24 hours. It was insane to the point of overwhelming. So if you feel like your not being contacted like you once were try changing something in your profile. A pic or even just the wording you wrote about yourself can make a ton of difference.
Post the pic! Post the pic!
(We might want to use it.)