Yeah, we are definitely talking about two different things.
You are talking about the political struggle in Congress, and there I agree with you completely. It’s even worse than you say, because the Republicans have a structural advantage that is very difficult to overcome. Their central thesis is that the federal government – particularly Congress – does not work. So if they pull stunts to stop our passing things, they are not just getting their way on policy, they are simultaneously proving that they are right about federal government. And if down the road, we retaliate in kind, then we further prove that they are right about federal government. Moral of the story (according to the GOP line): “Give up on using the federal government to rein in the abuses of laissez-faire capitalism; all the Founders authorized was a system reining in abusive government.” The people who have run the GOP for time out of mind will never give up on that line, and negotiation will not address the problem.
No, I was talking about negotiating with blocks of voters, the constituencies that build the two main coalitions. And lead to the numbers in Congress.
Republicans have done extremely well in that area. The people that ran the party for decades really did not care a whole lot about abortion or the role of Chirstianity in public affairs or civil rights for blacks or illegal immigration. They cared about the 1% of the 1%‘s ability to protect and grow their wealth – and grow their power in order to assure protection of that wealth. They simply made common cause with these other groups, regardless of their private feelings about things like abortion because hey, none of those things impacted their real priorities. Just sound supportive, and ignore the fact that most of these allies don’t give a rat’s ass about their wealth protection schemes. (Besides which, until quite recently, they could get away with simply paying lip service to these allies’ grievances without doing much of anything to actually effect policy changes. THAT is why some conservatives hate Trump: he outbid them, by being much more sincere about addressing these allies’ grievances. But even Trump, more than anything else, got through a tax bill protecting wealth. Who would have thought?)
Throughout my life, Dems have increasingly done the opposite. Rather than considering which groups of uncommitted or GOP-leaning voters could be enticed with policy or sympathy, they broad brush huge swaths of the electorate as hopeless because they have been voting the other way. My allies would be glad to make an alliance – with any group that already puts minority rights and women’s rights and LBGTQ rights and the environment at the top of their priority lists. And who does not make too big a deal of Christianity. Or flag waving. Or question science too much. Or…
The bristling hostility of so many vocal Dems makes it very, very difficult to attract the votes of new groups who might not really care a lot either way about some or all of our issues, but who care a whole lot about other things that the Republicans are not doing very well at serving.
Listening to fellow liberals here and on various other forums, the message is clear: The people who voted against us last time are too racist (or sexist or anti-environment or fundamentalist) to bother with. Better our group be pure and losers, than to dirty our hands and play politics and fix any of these things. Which I find extremely frustrating because, with the possible exception of police reform, we would probably win nationally if those issues were decided on a straight forward referendum. Heck, some would win right here in my bright red rural county, if I could just get liberals to sush a moment about the fact that they also think these people are rednecks for loving their guns.